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So while in the ideal world everyone would reply to every email, there are all kinds of legitimate reasons why we don’t.

Very true.

If I chat with someone in the TgR chatroom and give them my email address while in the chat room, I’ll always respond to them because I’ve already got past the types of issue that several girls have mentioned. I’ve never had a bad email from a girl I’ve chatted with first.

Alice

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I’ve put a photo in my album to show how it looks in one of my favourite dresses.

To make this information more accessible to people who are not members of tranny radio, I’ve created a wikipedia page on the subject:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hip_and_buttock_padding

Alice

[Alice]

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I go to the chat room often. Some girls admit to being not “dressed ” when they pop into it >I think it should be a rule that girls must be dressed to chat.

Well, that rules me and possibly about half the girls out.

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I agree that at late night its inconvient to go th whole hog but a simple dress with bra and panties undeneath is not too hard to get into or even just a nightie.

If I dress, I dress completely. I personally don’t see myself as dressed if just wearing a dress and some underwear.

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It might be worthwhile to ask the girls if they feel different chatting when dressd.

I certainly feel more relaxed when dressed, but when I’m immersed in a conversation in the chat room, I get so immersed in the conversation that I forget whether I’m dressed or not.

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It might be that some of the bitchiness that apparently happens at times there might be related to not dreessing …

Maybe I don’t spend enough time in the chatroom. I’ve seen some joking remarks that could be misinterpreted but I’ve never seen any bitchiness.

Alice

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Thanks for the link to Makeover-o-Matic.
It is just the best site to try all sorts of ideas and it is free!!!
But, does anyone know how I can save my new look to a file so that I can post it on trannyradio

If the site prevents right-click -> [save image], you could try using a “screen snapshot” program to grab an image of the whole broswer window, then crop that down to the picture that you want.

Alice

[Alice]

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On the other hand I got one via here and couldn’t reply cause the return is through the T-Radio mailing system and there isn’t a reply address to use.

I think that I have received just one email ever from tranny radio that I couldn’t respond to, and that was the reason. I compose emails at quiet times when I’m off line, and if there is no email address to reply to, I can’t reply. I find the idea of sending an email to someone without a return email address quite inappropriate and verging on downright rude.

I do occasionally take a while to reply to emails because I’m too busy with work, family and all of the other usual disasters but I do reply if it’s possible.

Alice

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So suggetions please….

About the only thing that I can think of right now would be adding “Wikipedia username” (and hence link to wiki user page).

I’m not sure whether that would be too open to abuse (perhaps only available to logged in members would help that) and whether enough girls are involved in Wikipedia to bother.

Alice

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I’ve created a private album and put a couple of photos there of the padding that I described here years ago.

I’ve just added a few “with” and “without” photos to show the difference in shape that adding padding makes.

I was a bit disappointed to see in these photos that the bum padding is probably a bit too small now that I’ve lost some weight. Oh well, I’ll have to carve a new one!

I also realised that what was my favourite dress is now a size too big and hangs like a sack! Time to go shopping for a new dress.

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My wife is going to make a unitard for me. Hopefully it’ll be ready soon.

Famous last words. The sewing slowed down and it’s still not done.

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Hi girls,I think that the best policy is to be honest right from the start

I have experienced both telling a partner well into a relationship and telling another very early in the relationship and have to agree that very early is the best option. As I get older, I get more interested in being more out in general.

Not only would I never even consider not telling a prospective partner, I’d quite likely want them to see me fully dressed before a relationship became serious. If they couldn’t handle that, the relationship would be ultimately doomed regardles of how it felt to start with.

For similar reasons, my son has known of my female alter ego essentially since birth. Knowing from infancy is far better than hiding it for years and springing it on them later, even if all the predictions on the ‘net say that I’ll be outed by him in the future.

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that way you will find out from the beginning how she really feels about you,and if she truly loves you then she will accept you for who you are no matter what

I don’t think that it is necessarily love that is the issue. Bigotry is a big issue in our society no matter how much we try to delude ourselves! Some people will never get past their bigoted view of crossdressers to know and accept the person inside.

Alice

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the thing I have noticed is that my nipples have started to enlarge and have becme quite sensitive. Has anyone experienced the same.

Sorry I didn’t notice your post sooner.

I found that the fennel and fenugreek tea had the effect of increasing nipple sensitivity while I was drinking it, but the effect wore off a couple of weeks after I stopped drinking it.

The other effect, which was why I stopped drinking it, was that it seemed to make it impossible to lose weight. While off it, I’ve dropped about 12kg. I’m aiming to lose another 5kg or so and then I’ll start drinking the tea regularly again.

Alice

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Finally – any pciture that has been marked as inappropriate will not be selected to be displayed on the main entry page.

Thank you Amanda. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I believe that, with this change, we have achieved precisely what I was hoping for in my original post.

An unexpected benefit is getting to see some very nice photos that I think I’ve seen once or twice a long time ago. The reduction in total number to choose from means that the remaining nice pictures display more often!

Alice

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No one seems to grasp the point that Im trying to make. Unless its so absurd its not worth acknowledging.

As I understand it, you are objecting to the fact that a minimum number of characters has been defined below which a post will not be considered acceptable because it is too short.

I’m genuinely interested in trying to understand why you have become so incredibly worked up over a very minor administrative change.

The reality is that the moderators would previously have manually deleted such posts anyway. Such manual deletion has been happening for several years. The net effect is that a portion of the trivial posts that previously had to be manually deleted are now not posted in the first place.

Please explain why you object to this. What negative effect does it have?

The forums have previously been flooded with rubbish posts, and we still frequently get “me too” posts even from regular posters, perhaps just trying to boost their posting stats.

I really don’t feel the need to attack someone for a “me too” type post. I try to always be positive in these forums and elsewhere. Just because I don’t complain doesn’t mean that I liked the post.

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Im sure we all understand what is and whats not considered appropriate behaviour.

If we did, the need for the site administrators to delete or edit inappropriate posts, profiles and photos would not exist. The fact that the need exists is testament to the fact that some here either do not understand or choose to knowingly break the rules in regards to what is or isn’t appropriate.

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I feel that Amanda has done a great job with this website and I think its fine as it is. But at the end of the day its her choice right.

Amanda does do an immense amount of work in making this site as good as it is. It’s certainly not a job that I envy! Amanda and I may have our differences, particularly in regards to the whole idea of negative feedback, but I believe that every decision that she has made in respect of this site has been made after careful consideration and has been what she believed to be in the best interest of the members.

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I just dont believe webmasters should censor peoples thoughts/opinions so harshly.

I’m yet to see any genuine censorship of substantive content.

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Are small posts on this forum so bad that they have to be censored?

Is it reasonable for a person to flood the forums with meaningless posts that say completely and utterly nothing?

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How many people actually complained about small posts?

Actively or passively? I often read a post and think “why on earth did they bother posting that?” Just because someone doesn’t come back and flame the poster, leave negative feedback or complain to the site administrator doesn’t mean that they were happy about reading something trivial, trite or just plain useless!

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And how many people here would post more if they knew there wasn’t so many rules and conditions to them expressing themselves.

I post when I feel that I have a valid contribution to make, either in starting a new thread or responding to an existing thread. The posting rules here are so close to normal acceptable use policy for virtually everywhere else I ever post or read that I have never considered them when typing a post.

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It comes across so contradictory especially when you consider who this forum is for. First society censors us then someone who is on our side wants to censor us..

Can you show me actual censorship anywere within the tranny radio web site that extends beyond what the majority of users would understand to be fair and reasonable behaviour?

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I think the webmaster should just except us for who we are with no conditions.

History is full of societies that have collapsed because they devolved to debauchery and the like. That is what you want of this site?

As long as members are able to function with reasonable self-guidance with respect to socially acceptable and moral behaviour within the transgender community, there is no need for the webmistress to impose guidance in this regard.

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And for the record the writing under

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was an explanation of ‘god complex’, it wasn’t a direct accusation. Maybe I should of just used the word ‘snob’ instead.

That comment is a flame. Do you think that Amanda will censor it out? Considering how that reads in the context of the rest of your comments in this thread, I doubt that she will censor your insulting her. Worse, she will likely leave it for all to see.

Alice.

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Just going through the stuff that Nikki has written. I recall some of the members who wore ‘interesting’ outfits to SHV, it definitely is a very murky area. What is ‘respectable’ and who decides will indeed give concern regards censorship.

I think that there is always going to be a grey area regardless of how you define your boundaries. That’s reality.

I’m hoping, based on the responses that I’ve seen so far, that we will reach a consensus position where public albums will, in future, need to meet a definition of tasteful that most members will agree is fair and reasonable.

Fetish is not always going to fail to be tasteful, so I really don’t believe that we are going to exclude all fetish clothing by asking that photos be tasteful.

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I also recall a member showing up and proceeded to show us how she dressed and made up, almost getting down to the buff, there were children there and although the member didn’t ‘show all’ I do recall feeling a tad uncomfortable when ‘she’ proceeded to arrange the family jewels.

That’s always going to be a difficult thing to explain without being doubtful. If I ever get around to putting together the website that I’ve got planned, I’ll probably use medical style drawings to illustrate that. I am certainly not going to include photos revealing that area of my anatomy!

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On one hand I do agree with Nikki, censorship is corruptable, on the other, as she also said, it’s up to Amanda to decide.

I believe that Amanda will decide this based on what a reasonable number of members deem appropriate. So far, it’s looking like we’re developing a fairly consistent theme in the general direction of the public albums at least.

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Personally I don’t need to see genitalia or hints of it, but that’s my taste, and of course the internet is full of places that you can go and see what we used to call “C**k in frock” pics.
I guess I fall on the side of aution, perhaps if there is to be ‘risque’ pics, they should be in a ‘not for public viewing’ album.
Not really helping I guess!!!

I think that fact that you, me and others here are generally agreeing is very helpful and productive.

At least you’ve shown me that I’m not completely out of step in my initial comments.

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I agree 100%!! All photos should be the sort of thing that you would be comfortable to wear in public.

And here I was thinking that it was a controversial subject and I’d be flamed severely.

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These photos are viewed by the public so we should be striving to show ourselves at our best. If members want to display semi-naked photos then they should move them to an appropriate adult site.

I guess this heads towards the other issue that I left aside to start with. Do we want such photos in private albums on Tranny Radio?

If so, should we have a rating system on albums, so that a member can set an option “don’t ever show me albums containing provocative photos” to avoid seeing them?

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Actually, the same should apply to your profile text!!

I couldn’t agree more.

To some extent, I was trying to dodge this issue when I suggested that it would be good to have a part of the profile text only viewable by members. That might still be useful, but perhaps not for this reason.

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I have seen a couple of blatant requests on profiles for encounters which really don’t belong on a classy site like Tranny Radio.

I think that we are at a point (and I hope that I won’t upset Amanda by saying this) where we need to more clearly define the content rules for TgR so that it can continue to be a classy site. Otherwise, there is a great risk that the standard will slowly but surely drop until the site devolves into something that most of us (including Amanda) would never dream of being involved with.

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a respectable site should have respectable content.

A very concise summary!

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Just my 2 cents worth

I have to say that your 2 cents worth is worth far more than 2 cents.

Alice

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I too find the whole process of transforming into JACQUIE a sexy and relaxing experience as when I’m transformed my whole attitude changes that my s/o reckons i am much calmer and approachable.

In my teens, I found dressing sexy but somewhere along the line that ceased to be part of it. It is certainly relaxing for me, and I know that I am much calmer when dressed.

That is, unless I impose some sort of goal on myself and stress because I can’t achieve it. Now, I approach dressing from the point of “I’d like to do x while dressed but it’s okay if I don’t get to do it. At least I’ll dress.” This is part of why I haven’t been out for about 2 years.

On the bright side, I’m dressing more often than I have for two years. I’m feeling a lot more relaxed and coping better with stress from work.

Alice