Phillippa
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I am sooo jealous. I got as far as ordering a crop top but took the deposit back when they were having production problems. Should have gone ahead! Are you happy with yours and how long did it take?
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Hi girls, don’t post much but read your ideas all of the time. Am interested in these prosthetics and some of the other products they are developing. Wasn’t sure if the website was a scam, but if someone in the east has one of their products then I guess they are OK! Any more comments on how they look in person?
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Hi there, long time since my last post. Have been through this myself. A few things to know. It would be best to be there, I did the deed in person without my wife present. The main thing is to assure them that you are still their father and do those dad sort of things and that you love them! Answer any questions honestly. My 9 yo twins and 20yo son are fine with it now. It feels great!
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Hi everyone, just posted on the “telling a partner” subject and thought I’d better add to this one as well. Have recently told my 8yo twins(boy/girl) and 20yo son of my voyage through cross-dressing (since I was 6). My wife and I decided that it would be best for all to tell them to eliminate the big secret. It was getting harder to keep anyway. I know myself that I have been a moody old bastard because I was angry at myself and taking it out on them. We have always tried to keep the childrens minds open with transgender issues as they appear in the media etc – they still laugh at men in dresses though. My 20yo son had no idea but as we have a close relationship he was very accepting – through the tears (his). He does not need to see me dressed but as long as the secret is shared he is happy – accidentally finding out is the worst possible scenario! The twins watched me get ready for the last Chameleons meeting (WA) and kept saying I did not look any different, whilst putting on the make-up. I then sent them out and changed into a blouse,skirt, opaque tights, heels, wig, jewellery and re-entered the room. They were a bit stunned and said they didn’t recognize me! No compliments – just “different”!
I am now more relaxed and more loving to them. We are all much happier! It was not easy, but nothing worth doing, is. Set the scene, private time and no distractions! Let them know you are still Dad and that you still love them – nothing has changed. Still be their Dad and do the Dad things with them! I hope this has been of help to you. Good luck! -
Hi all, I told my wife at the point where We knew we were getting serious – Thinking about proposing. She was great and realised part of my attraction was the more feminine side to my nature and she has been supportive ever since. Recently we took the step of telling our 8 yo twins (boy/girl) and my 20 yo son. They young ones were amused and interested, we always tried to keep their minds open to societies variations. My 20yo was completely unaware but accepted me for what I am. We are close and still do the boy things together. We had a very informative talk on the subject by Dr. Viv Cass – psychologist and Chameleons WA Life member. Telling SO’s about your gender differences was the subject. It brought up some very interesting points including; when, where, setting the scene, what next etc. Hope this helps. It ain’t easy folks!!
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Hi everyone, my first time on the forum so bear with me. Having discovered my true femme self for real after the break up of my first marriage I joined the Chameleons in WA. I just could not get enough. What a revelation. There were actually people like me in the world! Over the next two years I was at as many meetings as I could get to. Then I met a lovely girl and things started getting serious. I decided it was best to tell her about Phillippa before we went any further (engagement?). She was taken aback at first but after thinking about it put it like this: I would rather you dressed as a woman occasionally than, did drugs, drank too much, beat me up or played around with other women! She also liked the idea of a partner who was great to go shopping with. I have developed my “look” over the years with her help as she was keen for me to look as passable as possible. She still has fears about me going dressed in public and does not want me to shave my legs
but is very supportive all the same. I guess the main thing is tell them as soon as you feel you trust them and give them an out if in a new relationship. One of the members here in Perth uses it as a filter. When she getting serious with a new partner she tells them about her femme self and sees what happens! Good luck to you all. Phillippa
