[Veronica]

Hi all, I think this is a very interesting discussion because it picks away at the notion of identity politics to expose the pervasive influence of class. The gap between transgender people who have access to significant resources and those who don’t is, like the gaps that exist with respect to education, income, health etc., increasing year by year. In this respect, the furor over Ms Jenner’s sometimes amazing statements (not just the one’s quoted but also her musings over the decisions a woman has to make before stepping out each morning) are confusing the symptom with the cause. It’s precisely the brand of politics that Jenner supports (small government, trickle down economics etc) that has led to this growing disparity. Frankly her support of right wing policies and politicians should not surprise us any more than Malcolm Turnbull’s support for the same policies; they are policies that will keep the “less presentable” firmly in their place. V x x

[Veronica]

HI all,

This is a really interesting discussion, and even more relevant when acceptance of transgender People does appear to increasing, if only among certain groups in society. Personally, I’ve never wanted to “pass”, albeit that I’m short and have small hands and feet. I guess I’d argue that gender is a dimension, not a set of categories, and I’ve always got a really intense feeling of satisfaction via cross dressing, it certainly “frees” a persona that seems to be missing when I’m not dressed, and it pleases me to do so in a way that others find attractive. On the other hand, there are transgender people who intensely want, even need, to be accepted as members of the female gender, and identify strongly with this gender. In this respect it doesn’t seem constructive to accept universal or normative statements about passing. Veronica

[Veronica]

Hi all those participants in this thread. I would like to add another layer to this question about being “happy being Trans-gendered”. I certainly enjoy the state of being trans-gendered, but I also really enjoy standing up for the truth; the truth that human sexuality and gender are far more nuanced and complex than both the mainstream media, and culture, recognise (or more accurately, care to admit).

all the best for the season

Veronica

[Veronica]

Hi Tracey,

I too have been in a long-term relationship with one guy and have found it personally validating and emotionally fulfilling. However, like so many gurls, when I’m not dressed, it’s the genetic females that seem to draw my attention exclusively. I guess it’s another example of the sheer complexity and fluidity of sexual behaviour. Trying to use nice, neat categories to discuss sex is like trying to use a fishing net to carry water; it just ain’t going to work.

Veronica

[Veronica]

Hi Abbie,

Don’t box yourself into that right-wrong narrative honey. Sex is complex and human sexuality is more like a fluid than a set of boxes. If you’re not into children or animals, then I wouldn’t be using right-wrong categories.

Veronica

[Veronica]

Hi all,

Dee, I feel the same way as you, and I don’t know if it’s a hormone but something definitely changes when I’m Veronica.

All best

V

[Veronica]

Hello all,

This is my first post on any forum and it reflects the intensity of my feelings about purging. I have only ever purged once, and it taught me a lesson I’ll never forget: “Don’t”. The reason I purged was because my then girlfriend was moving in. Years later I found out she couldn’t have cared less and the least I should have done was to check (I know some partners are not so indifferent, and some are downright negative). If she had been negative, then I could have stashed my clothes, as others have already suggested and as I did myself years later when I really did have to remove them. The other point that has already been made on this thread is that lurking behind the desire to purge are the twin evils of shame and guilt

Veronica