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Are you happy being a man or seriously wanting to be a woman
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Hi, gurls,
I have been watching this topic unfold for some time, and I have also pondered on it for many years, so I thought I’d put in my two cents’ worth.
Im 59, and have been cross dressing since a child.I love the feel and look pf feminine clothes, and am lucky to be slim enough to fit into the smaller sizes. However, I consider myself very much a man who dresses up as a woman, not a woman in a man’s body.
Now please don’t get me wrong. I’m not knocking those who do feel this way ; everyone is individual, and has their own emotional and psychological drives. I feel happy for those who want to undergo SRS. Today, they can be made happy by surgery.
But, to be honest ,I mainly dress for the sexual satisfaction it gives me, but I DO love the femininity I feel when dressed.
Not to put too fine a point on it, but I would never part with my penis.
Hugs, Michelle
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It’s interesting that this topic is still going after all this time.
When I first wrote it I was genuinely interested (and still am!) on the different points of view.
As has been said a number of times we are all individuals (and thank goodness for that) and we are all seeking different things.
I feel more feminine when I am dressed but I dont try to act like a woman. I guess there is a little bit of femininity?? in all of us, just some choose to express it more openly than others and for some there is an overwhelming desire to be a woman. Personally I get a buzz out of womens clothing, I wish I could convince my wife to wear more sexy gear but she is not the slightest bit interested, maybe thats one of the reasons that I do?? I am not sure, just know that I love all things sexy whether I am wearing it or another female is!
Oh well keep the posts going they are all great. Most importantly enjoy where you are at with the whole thing!
Kiki
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I find this topic interesting as it points out the trouble with labelling behaviours. I once met a TS girl who said she would / could never be a gay person . Yet , when questioned , she said she liked women as a sexual partner. I pointed out that , if she thought herself a woman and after her planned SRS she was considered to BE a woman, then she would be a lesbian and therefore, gay! This seemed to confuse her and upset her but I think it true none the less. Labels only fit some folk and are probably best ignored. I used Crossdresser for a long time as it describes what I do but now prefer Transgender as it still allows a range of preferences and describes better how I feel. As the saying goes, ” Label jars, not people!” Christina.
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Hi all,
Im just coming back to dressing after many years of not – mainly because of memories associated with a divorce ,partly because of being single and a bit isolated.
I feel if I was able to cross over to female as a youngster I would have and probably would have bene happy as a girl fulltime. Now I wouldnt consider it. Now I enjoy being male 90% of my time -when dealing with th e world outside. From what ive seen during my life I coulldnt put up with men as a women and i feel no attraction to men as such. So I feel its a case of changing young if you want to and can
I once met a well known tranny from “that” stage show and she was very happy looking as a beutifull woman but wasnt interetsted in having full srs a she said she had gone far enough annd had the best of both worlds sexually
So it takes all types in this world and i think this is a good thing
My sympathies go to mature age grils who really want to transition and then overcome the physical featutre produced by many years of being male.I know a couple of girls like this and they find it very hard work to look passable and accepted or “acceptable “
SUZZ
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Hi Jane and all !
You have raised a good point here ! If I was adam would I still want to be eve ? I think some ‘adams’ would still feel they were in the wrong body as I have read so many stories where a very young boy has felt something was “wrong” with his body and has felt his way until SRS has been completed …
But, I feel. many of us who feel the urge, that irrespresable urge to dress as a woman would still feel envy at the female gender. Perhaps if both sexes wore the same clothes – as what was nearly the norm in china under Mao. the urge would be far diminished .But perhaps we would want to dress in womens garb even though it was the same. Perhaps we would be enviuos of the way women act and the petiteness of their bodies …Its an interesting thought
Anyway, good luck with your transition – you have courage going through with it .
Hugs
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I mainly like the feel of femail clothes, i love skirts and dresses, the feel of it against my legs is so sensual.
I would like to be a woman but im happy with the way I am, so make do with just wearing femail clothes.
It makes me happy, and i feel we should all do what feels best.Love Abbie
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Do I wish I was a girl, only sometimes. I love my life as a man, I love my kids and especially love my wife. had I been a woman I would have never had those. But I do love the feel of all things feminine.
I love the smell of female perfume
I love the feel of classy silk lingerie against my skin (especially when freshly waxed)
I love the feel of the wind blowing around stokinged legs
I love the comfort of a nightdress over PJ’s
All these things I love, and they are eroric to me as well
When I am dressed I am a woman for that time
And I am turned on by dressing
I feel it is very very sexy
My wife is also turned on by me dressing as a woman and it is another great aspect of our sex life
All I need now is to do the final act as a woman but I find that hard to comtemplate and so when it finally does happen will happen with another dresswer -
Dressing to me is an arousal. I love the feel of stockings lingerie etc and feel very free when dressed. The thrill of walking outside whilst dressed is one which is hard to describe. It is almost as if you are doing something forbidden, but you love it so much.
There are deifnitely times when the thought of total feminisation comes up, but if that were the case, then wouldn’t the thrill and reason for dressing go?
I just feel as if I am really feeling content whilst dressed because of the powerfu feelings of arousal and that I am dipping into the forbidden.l
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It is so nice to read that a lot of us girls get a lovely feeling when dressed. I love the feeling of lingerie against my skin , enough that I nearly want to explode .I fully transform, I might not be the best looking girl however I and others believe that I do look OK I love to be in the company of other girls and allow nature to take her place and we can behave like girls in a most intimate way if that is our wish. I do get a bit surprised when some girls think that by sharing your body is going against what “trannies/crossdressers” are put on earth for. I don’t get offended if some other girl wants to catch up, in fact I encourage it . We are all human and if some one wants to be intimate then so be it
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I am so happy to hear that there are others who find dressing so incredibly sexy, because I always have. Although I have never interacted sexually with a man, my feelings as a woman are totally for the concept, however my male persona is not very excited about the idea!
I am extremely unlikely to ever undergo SRS so will remain in this man’s body (he has a right to live too!), but when I am dressed I have a woman’s feelings. Like Samantha-Jane I would only ever contemplate it with another dresser, someone who understands my situation at least a little. I am also fortunate that my SO loves me to dress and we are just as intimate whether I am man or woman.
An open minded, live and let live approach is what I regard as healthy, if you are not hurting anyone, then enjoy yourself! 😳 Thankyou Samantha Jane, Wendy and Helen for your candid, refreshing statements.
I am a crossdresser or transvestite, whatever tag you prefer, but when I am dressed I seriously want to be a woman.
I wish you all much peace and joy
Love Mel
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I feel like I am 2 people.
As Hexa I like guys, feminine things, makeup, etc.
As boy me I like girls (and “girls” – don’t mind Hexa either – she’s pretty hot
) and boy stuff like trucks, pies, footy, paintball, and computer games with lots of violence and guns.Neither individal personality is “gay” or bisexual but both together in the one brain make for a very confused, sexually ambiguous person.
I would never go too much one way or the other (e.g. hormones for the girl path and weights and bulking up for the boy path). As this would mean sacrificing a part of me.
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. . . . . . Hi gurls . . .
I’m only a relative newcomer to CD’ing and will only ever be “closet” or at least a “part-timer” , however I do socialise privately with others fairly regularly . Like many gurls I have a long , pre-teen , history of a lingerie fetish , but I only started going for the full femme transformation about six years ago .
At first dressing was an extension of that lingerie fetish and was a complete sexual turn-on but gradually I found my female persona developing and as it did so the simple act of dressing ceased to turn me on sexually , I just love to get into a sexy outfit and put on my make-up to meet someone special the same as any woman does .
Also like so many other gurls I had no interest in men , but that too changed . As my female personality came into full force I developed a normal , female , sexual attraction to guys too . I still love to get together with other gurls but I much prefer the attention and appreciation of men . . . and gurls , there are lots of guys out there who really do appreciate a well dressed and nicely made-up gurl and are able to relate to us and treat us like women .As a guy I’ve never been interested in macho sports but never been the least bit effeminate either . Always equally as proficient and happy with a welding torch and an angle grinder as sitting at a sewing machine with a Vogue dress patern , at different times in my life I’ve been invovled in as gender diverse occupations as long haul trucking and having my own dress design and manufacturing business .
Like Melody I’d never consider any kind of chemical or surgical re-asignment . . .
And like Hexa I feel like 2 people . . and my male and female personas have many very seperate and different gender specific traits . Now this all may sound somewhat schizophrenic but I’m perfectly at ease with myself . . of should I say , we are both perfectly at ease with ourselves . I’ll be the first to admit that there must be some major screw up in my brains wiring . . but I’m loving the effects of it and wouldn’t want to change a thing .Vive la difference . . .
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Yes !
I get that feeling of having two personalities in the one body a bit .I definitely think its of benefit to me to feel a bit this way – It seems to me to be an inbuilt defense mechanism put there so that I dont think of myself as a crossed dressed man ,rather a diffrent entity who can express femininitty easily …I really wonder sometimes what it would be like to be Suzz 24/7 for a couple of weeks – would I settle into the role well and would i start to feel attracted to men ? I find men so unattractive … I wonder…
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Hi all,
Just To add a bit more, I get the fear,at times that my female persona will somehow ‘weaken’ my male one if I indulge too much in dressing and acting “girrly ” .Perhaps others may feel this way ? I think one of societies prejudices is this feeling – ie if men cross dress then they will become girly and some how weakened as men – sure its a put down of women ,this view but perhaps its relevant to understanding societies apperant fear of Cding .This is addition to the ever present homophobiaAs well, its Ok for a girl to act and dress as a tomboy because males are “superior’ to females in many eyes and she will “grow out of it …” if not she will just be a butch girl .
Still, it was the custom in parts of Scotland in years past to dress boys and girls in th same way, in female clothes so as to avoid killing of boys in clan raids. This was discontinued when the boy reached 10 -12 yrs.This doesnt seem to have ‘weakened ‘ Scottish society back then .On the other hand no one kept records on whether cross dressing was parcticed by many men after switching to male clothes …
Hugs
Suzz
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Hi, I’ve been reading these posts with great interest. I must admit to some sympathy to those who experience feelings of being feminine. When I’m dressed I feel overwhelming pleasurable sensations, but of what? Is it femininity? Or is it something else that we are interpreting as femininity. How can we know? We don’t know what it is; feminine feelings are indefinable to us surely?
A girl friend once asked me if I wished I could become a woman and I thought about the whole subject, what occurred to me at that time was that if there was a magic wand and it could be waved over me I truly wouldn’t know. Being a woman isn’t just wearing pretty clothes or lingerie, wearing perfume and high heels, surely it’s the total sum of her life experiences? How she has been trained as a child to react in certain circumstances ever had a woman give you a dressing down? Group dynamics? Watch how a woman will manipulate a group of men. I’d love that power. As for loving the idea of being treated as a woman when being escorted by a ‘man’. I have had that pleasurable experience, it is nice, definitely. There is something to be said about being ‘taken care of’ as a woman. But my question is this, how can we ever know that what we are feeling are in fact genuine feelings of femininity or are they simply a reaction to items and experiences?
