[Alison_2]

Hi,

I’m very much like you Noeleena, in that I go out and about and don’t mind if people talk to me. There is no way I ‘pass’, however much I would like to think I do, but having been out and about for all these years it really doesn’t bother me any more. I find on the whole most people are kind if they speak to me and if not I just ignore them and stay focused on my mission.

In reality I believe most people don’t even notice me, I think they do, but they really don’t. They are all busy in their own world to look or bother about a crossdresser being in their mist.

Alison

[Alison_2]

Our fleet of vehicles is randomly pulled over by the police on a regular basis. After the boss sought legal advice we were told to do the following –

Keep a log of the time, date, location, police officers name, the police cars registration, and the name/address of a witness – if there is one, for each time you are pulled over. Only do this for the times you are singled out and it’s a random stop, not for other times such as roadside drug/breath testing etc.

After you have logged a couple of these occasions, the next time you are pulled over be polite but tell the officer you feel you are being victimized and/or harassed. Picking the right moment, start to add this event to your log. The officer will enquire about the log and you very politely explain it’s what your lawyer/solicitor has instructed you to do.

The officer, after doing a very quick check on your licence, will let you continue on your way.

It took me a few times before I got it right, I should have practiced my spiel first, but I learnt the more calm and collect I am the sooner they let me continue my journey. Make sure you say company lawyer/solicitor or you have a family member who is a lawyer/solicitor. It adds weight and they assume you are not be bluffing.

I keep a shorter version of my log in my car, over the Christmas period I was pulled over, while dressed. The officer was not exactly being nice so I went through my spiel, his attitude changed and I was sent on my way without any further undue fuss.

[Alison_2]

I would always panic because of the fear of something being said to me and not knowing how to react back. The more I panicked the more I stood out. I would freeze when spoken to, go very red and get out of the shop as fast as possible.

Smaller shops were more of a problem but I found a way round my fear by telling the assistant I was a crossdresser and asking if I could return either just before they opened or just after they closed to do my shopping. This worked very well especially when buying bra’s, undies and shoes.

Buying makeup would send me into panic mode more than anything else until one day I built up the courage and walked trembling into Priceline, told the shop assistant I would like to try various makeup for myself and would she help me. She was fantastic, took me aside, helped me, applied makeup on me and helped me decide what worked best. I knew other women were looking at me but the young girl just kept my attention away from them.

[Alison_2]

Yep! we all need friends of one sort or another and it’s a very thin line and can be easy to cross.

From my point of view I enjoy TR as there are no predators, and nor should there be.

If one wants a male companion they can be found on the many other sites in the big wide world of the internet.

But I do agree that we should discuss our sexual thoughts, problems, desires, feelings etc etc within the group.

I know I have a few hang-ups in that area, and probably need to sort them out – but not today.

[Alison_2]

You are certainly not alone Michelle I have been crossdressing from the age of 7, and from around that age I started to collect model buses. As the years rolled on I added to my collection by building kits. These days it’s buses and trucks all modeled on English vehicles in the 60’s and 70’s, and all in 1/76 scale.

Like my crossdressing there were times when they were put away and then got out or as in some cases started from scratch again.

A few years ago I made the choice and decided that both were staying and never getting put away again.

I have always kept the two of us apart, and as Alison I still find it difficult to play/work on my models, it’s more like Alison should be knitting or something. Well, collecting/building models of buses and trucks is not exactly a girly thing to be doing is it! and yes I know men knit – I was just using that as an example – rightly or wrongly.

[Alison_2]

My partner and I also watched the progams and found them very interesting.
I am so pleased they were posted as otherwise we would have most likely missed them.

[Alison_2]

Sally_C – “our group” was referring to Trannyradio.

You are right I should have come for a chat, my partner did her best to try and persuade me to.

It’s a silly, and maybe a pathetic, excuse but even after all these years I still have difficulty in talking about ‘Alison’ when I am not her.

I have always had the two of us separated, we don’t wear each others clothes and we very much try to keep our lives apart. I guess this comes from a survival instinct and not wanting to be caught out in those early years.

I can, and do, move my mind over to ‘Alison’ when I am out shopping but in the main I still keep them very separate.

My partner says I am embarrassed about being Alison but I disagree – well I would wouldn’t I ! but I recon it’s more to do with the fact I can’t put my mind to being ‘Alison’ if I am not in her. Does that make sense?

Yes my partner did try to get Alison to go into Melbourne but as we went in by train I just didn’t have enough courage for the hour long trip. Looking back on the day I am still glad Alison stayed at home, maybe next year she can go to the ball, woops festival.

My new partner gives me all the confidence in the world, and I know how lucky that makes me, but I need to go out with other girls in public and have that ‘safety in numbers’ before going on a train and mixing with huge crowds of the general public.

[Alison_2]

Here I am, been here for two minutes and sticking my oar in, but it does seem we are getting a little over heated and maybe Amanda should be given a little more slack.

I have a friend who is a moderator in a very volatile site, he has a terrible job and we often talk about it. It is a no win situation as one can’t please everyone all of the time.

He has come up with a solution that he says has helped, if he feels the topic of the post might cause a problem or its of a nature he wants to send to the recycle bin, he sends it back, and asks if the original writer would like to alter it. He takes the time to explain why and where he fells it should be altered.

It has worked and not only has it kept the peace, it has kept the postings flowing.

It’s a terrible job being a moderator, Many years ago I was one, and to be honest I would rather walk out dressed in front of a crowd of teenage girls than be a moderator.

I’m not taking sides, or I haven’t intended to, but, and I am really the last person to say this as I open mouth before my brain goes into gear, but we wouldn’t be in this group if we weren’t in need of help, able to offer help or just wanting to be in a comfort zone.

Bottom line is we need each other, we shouldn’t be bickering or falling out with each other, we should respect each others thoughts/words and maybe take a little extra time to see if we have read someones post differently to the way they intended it to be read.

Gosh re-reading this I am sounding like an old mother hen, maybe I should just shut up now. lol

[Alison_2]

Speaking for myself, I would be willing to participate in postings but, yes there is always a but, I have never met anyone in the group and therefore feel shy/nervous etc.

I am always aware how easy it is to make a fool of myself and how easy it is for people to misunderstand what I am trying to say. They haven’t read it the way I meant it to be read, instead they have put their own interpretation on it.

I’m sure many of you, as you read this, are feeling the same and while it’s nothing to do with confidence it is to do with the fact I don’t want to look/sound silly any more than I already do. Maybe that is a lack of confidence after all. lol

I also feel that in some way I do not have the experience to comment, even after crossdressing for 53 years, because most of that has been on my own.

Having said this, I will try to participate.

Good grief I have spent over a hour trying to write this

[Alison_2]

I’m a new member and live in outer Melbourne, I had not heard of this group until I stumbled across it a couple of weeks ago on the internet.

I’ve known about Seahorse for over 30yrs years, in fact I joined it in the early 80’s but did not remain a member for very long – that’s another story.

Having spent Sunday at the Melbourne midsummer festival I did not see any mention of our group although the Seahorse Group looked to be very active.

I was going to talk to the Seahorse girls but changed my mind, so in fairness I don’t know if they mentioned our group to any of the visitors.

Maybe our group is more out there in other States than it is in Vic. Just a thought.