Alison_2
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Well Caroline I could have said more but I didn’t think it appropriate to go into further details. It did give me excellent value for money and it lasted at lot longer than I had expected. Eventually the ties tore loose which I always believe was my fault – no need to explain why. My make shift repairs weren’t very successful.
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Hi Glenda,
A few years ago I purchased a slightly different type http://www.veestrings.plazadiscounts.com/page10.html and I was very satisfied with mine as was my then male partner. The quality was good and it did what it was suppose to do. It certainly made sex a lot easier, it made me feel more feminine during sex, it was more enjoyable for me and it was more convenient because we could have sex anytime without the hassle and preparation. Never had any problems with it except that I found if I was keeping it on for long periods I did have to keep using baby powder to avoid getting sore.
It gave me a lovely figure under jeans and as long as I was careful, going to the toilet was never a problem.
I can’t remember what happened to it but I have been thinking about buying another for the last few months. Just can’t quite justify the money at the moment.
There is a cheaper version from the same company but it’s not very good for the male partner.
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I’m with you Carol, I think it is much better to just smile and continue on without causing any sort of confrontation.
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Well Adrian you are quite right, we would get attacked in one form or another long before anyone thought to ask for a birth certificate. Changing a birth certificate is not going to make any difference to most of the general public.
All this talk of a pelvic scanner seems ridiculous and should not be given the time of day.
Surly this bathroom debate could simply be solved by having more disabled toilets or having same sex toilets, both of which seem to be appearing more and more in Australia.
Going in to a Male toilet is a certain recipe for being abused or bashed. Female toilets have individual cubicles so I really can’t see what the Americans are fussing about. -
I spend nearly all my time wearing feminine clothing and getting dressed is for a normal day be it at home or out shopping etc. Whereas dressing up is for going out some where special or going out with friends or if some romance is likely to be involved. So yes, for me, there is a difference between getting dressed and being dressed up.
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Oh dear I seem to be disagreeing as I think, and believe, that passing does give you freedom. Freedom to go out safely in the community and go about ones business without all the hassles and bullshit from the public.
Are we all not ambassadors for the TG community and therefor isn’t it important that we give a good impression. I know every time I go out someone will spot me, I expect it, that’s life but if I almost look passable in their eyes then their thoughts, actions, can only be positive.
There’s been a tremendous change of attitude by the public in the last year and we need that trend to continue so that one day every TG will be able to go out safely.
As we are seeing from the various postings there are quite a few reasons why passing isn’t wrong. -
I don’t see it as being wrong I see it as – I’m a woman passing by without being noticed that I’m not a woman.
I want to be a woman. I want to be accepted as a woman. I meet, talk and go passed people all the time. I need to PASS so I know I am doing everything right. I need to PASS so I know I look ok. I need to PASS to keep my confidence up. I need to PASS for me. It’s really all about me and how I feel.
Even if the world was at a time where a man could go out wearing a dress without a second look, I would still be putting on a wig, doing my makeup, looking like a real woman and hope that I would PASS as a real woman because that’s who I strive to be. -
This was another very interesting program. It’s nice to see all these shows/interviews etc. on free to air TV. At last the general public are now getting a really good insight of transgender people. This can only lead to a better and more positive understanding.
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And remember the shorter the hemline the more attention it attracts which might not always a good thing.
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Hi Roberta,
Yes I still have them, and sorry for the slow reply.
Don’t worry about the cost of mailing them.
I’m going in to hospital tomorrow, nothing serious just an op on my ankle, so if you can send me your address I will get them in the post asap.
please email your address to akay03@bigpond.com
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Yes, finally I am.
At last I have managed to stop worrying or thinking that everyone is looking at me and now I just go about being me. It’s no longer a big deal if someone works out who I am, I don’t know them and I am not going to see them again so what does it matter. Lets face it do I really know they have spotted me – no usually it’s all in my silly mind. People are too wrapped up in their own worlds to give me a second thought.
Sometimes my voice or a cough will give me away but has anyone really noticed and even if they have there is no point worrying about it, I just push it out of my mind get on with life.
When I am dressed as a woman I am a woman, I have my head held high, shoulders back, trying not to make eye contact with anyone and staying calm relaxed.
I believe in me and that’s all that matters, so yes I am very happy being transgender in fact I am the happiest I have ever been.
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Sure I want to be feminine but I don’t want to be more feminine than today’s woman.
Sometimes I think I try too hard to be a female, I want to be and to look feminine but not to be looking more feminine than today’s woman. Let’s face it if I look more feminine all I’m going to do is draw unwanted attention.
Until recently I had never owned a pair of slacks and then once I did it took ages before I would venture out in them because they didn’t make me feel feminine. I have now come to realise that slacks or jeans worn with the right top can make me feel just as feminine as wearing a skirt. Buying female jeans made a huge difference.
My friends say I still look feminine in slacks or jeans. Most women these days wear don’t wear skirts or dresses so I guess I need to move with the times.
I want to be feminine but I also just want to blend in, I think there is a very fine line between being feminine and being over feminine. -
That’s exactly how I feel and have done for a long time.
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I’ve only recently started going out in public and I stress like mad. I have to get my mind into the right place and feel confident with the way I look.
My comfort zone is to go out down the street looking very casual. I started with wearing jeans before venturing to wearing a skirt.
I freak out thinking everyone is looking at me but I look straight ahead and look through people, never making eye contact. I feel my word is going to collapse and stress everyone will point at me or call me names. So far they never have but it doesn’t stop me from stressing.
I have found it easier to venture out in large crowds when people are in a rush.
I stress inside me every time I step outside the front door but I force myself to keep going step by step and with each one it gets easier. Over the last few months I have surprised myself in how brave I have become.
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I would often go out as Alison but I was always worried that the neighbours would see me walking from the front door to the car or spot me driving down the driveway, and what their reaction would be.
I had been caught out by the postman and he has never said anything or acted differently, so that was a big relief.
Since then I have thought what the heck, so what if neighbours see me. I now don’t care and the whole street can see me. I am not sneaking out to my car any more.
I know a few people in the street have seen me but there has been no negative reaction. My partner and I thought they may have come and told her but they haven’t.
We have just got new neighbours and I am wondering should I tell them or let them find out when they see me. I expect they will most likely see me one evening putting the bins out.
For 50+ years I have worried what other people will think and might say, I was so silly because people are too wrapped up with their own lives to bother about me.
Life is so much easier now I know people know about Alison. I always thought there would be hate mail or even worse, but there wasn’t.
Now if only Alison could go down the shops, I saw a couple of girls walking through Frankston a few weeks ago and I so wished I had spoken to them. As they walked by with shopping bags in their hands, I watched the public and hardly anyone turned their heads. Seeing them gave me even more courage.
The world is at last changing and people are becoming more understanding.
