Anya
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Agree strongly with Bambi’s remark that a colour close to your original hair colouring is best – that way you’ll be selecting a colour that likely matches your skin tone.
Vicki also makes an important point about selecting the right style. My own experience is that it’s well worth going to a mainstream wig store that serve the needs of women with cancer.
The good stylists in these places are very experienced and are often fluent with the task of selecting from the large range of hair styles available the particular ones that are likely to suit particular face/ head shapes.
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OK, so changing gender takes away choices about fertility.
Other than highlighting what would be an obvious point to any parent faced with the challenge of helping their child mature into a healthy and happy adult, there don’t seem to be much in this piece to be taken seriously.
Except, perhaps, to appreciate that we still need to help people – even professors at the University of Melbourne – understand that gender identity isn’t a matter of choice.
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Oh, and one final comment (question really) – how about CistaAwards for those supportive partners who come along the Transformal weekend?
I know it’s totally “off topic”, but what the heck.
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Cis and trans are Latin prefixes.
Trans – on the other/opposite side; across, beyond
Cis – on the same side
Because of their antiquity, these prefixes are in usage across a variety of fields. As has already been pointed out they have precise meaning in chemistry. The terms also have a long history of usage in the language of genetics. In eukaryotic organisms that have paired chromosomes, cis refers to differing genetic variants positioned on the same chromosome of a homologous pair, which means that they are usually inherited together. Trans refers to the variants being on opposite chromosomes, which means they are rarely inherited together.
In gender studies, in line with points made by others, my understanding is that cisgender has crept into the language, appropriately, to distinguish from transgender.
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Good question.
There isn’t such a word, I think.
How about a “secret”?
So, instead of “A pack of transgender people arrived at the club”, it could be “a secret arrived at the club”.
Anyway, enough of the quirky humour – there’s loads of other good words to choose from!
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OK – the challenge is on!
We probably all have several key things in common, most notably that virtually all of us are positioned somewhere across the gender spectrum – that is, our brains are out of alignment to varying degrees with what was declared at the time we all came kicking and screaming into the world. And, most likely, we have a whole lot of similar experiences of the consequences of forging our way in the world while living and coping with the discordance within us.
But it’s not one size fits all – the extent of the dissonance in each of us varies hugely. This simple fact alone means that there is tremendous diversity within the TG community. And it’s probably fair to say that only the most remarkable of organisations could adequately cater for all our differences.
So, it is perhaps no surprise that that there are so many groups – they have evolved, or budded out, in response to a broad range of needs.
Recognition and acceptance of the diversity may well be an essential starting point. After that, it may be possible to think of effective ways to link groups so that useful synergies begin to evolve.
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What an excellent idea!
(…. oh, and I’m adding a few more words here to get above the number of words needed to avoid the following – “your message appears to be too brief for these forums. Please review your post to ensure that you are saying something worthwhile. ( 23|3|0)” ).
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What a good idea! I’m sure that many of us would have a few things to contribute.
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Peta, Your open-hearted generosity is valued and greatly appreciated. Don’t be deterred. And to the author of the message – strongly suggest you seek out someone with whom you can air these dark thoughts and feelings.
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I’m familiar with the word being used in Melbourne from the early 1980’s. My first exposure to the word was from someone who described herself as a “post-op transexual”, who used it as a diminutive and slightly pejorative term referring to those who had progressed only to the stage of taking hormones. Akin to having progressed to the “trainer wheel” stage.
My sense of the way the word is used now is as a more positive and light-hearted noun that encompasses all shades of the spectrum.
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Anna’s recommended website above is fantastic.
I can vouch for the effectiveness of putting on a pair or two of socks, struggling into the now VERY tight shoes and then going for a small walk. Doing this a couple of times usually does the trick. I’ve never needed to do anything else.
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Like Cynthia and Elle, my name was suggested by my SO (my wife). For whatever reason, we both really liked the name and it stuck from the moment it was suggested.
My wife suggested the name during the aftermath of her having stumbled across the extent of my feminine interests. I was fortunate in that I realized straight away that I had been “sprung” – and it was apparent that 15 years of silence over the matter was a doomed policy.
So, I explained and we talked, and talked (talking is good!). She quickly realised that I was telling the truth, did some homework, and within a couple of days was getting her head around all this stuff.
However, whlie she was contemplating all that I had told her I really thought that I was for the high-jump. But when she suggested a name that hit the spot I realised that she really understood and that we could all move on together.
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There was a young TGirl in a nice pair of thigh boots and black tights. She loved to
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Hi Tiggy, I think that Bronywn’s suggestion has a lot of merit. Times when it’s too busy and crowded for people to care usually work really well.
For those who would prefer a quieter approach, going out for a meal to a place that you know will be friendly is a good alternative (a phone call beforehand to explain what you are planning and to check with them whether you are indeed welcome before you book is always worthwhile).
Best wishes, Tanya
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Good advice! …. and, whenever possible, wear a broad-rimmed hat when in the sun.
