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Yes this was the least shocking news since Ian Thorpe came out as gay.
Apparently Andreja had a supportive family and was on puberty blockers since age about 13. Good luck to her. I’ve taken a wee while to get over my attack of jealousy but seriously, she has done it so smoothly I’m in awe. -
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The problem I hit isn’t the dress size of garments. Due to my, apparently below average, height it’s the length. Go to Autograph to buy a pair of jeans, I look for an overall length of about 95cm. The shortest overall length they currently have in jeans is 105cm. And I hit the same problem for skirts and dresses.I’ve always been confused by sizing and particularly the assumption by manufacturers that if your waist size is larger so is your height.
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I give up. I’ve been stalling replying to this thread because I’ve been trying to pull my weight back down but here’s the honest truth. 5’10” (178cm), shoe size 10/11 with a need for wide fitting in a 10, top/dress 18/20 or XL/XXL, bottom 14/16. Weight 90 kg and working on it. In summary I can buy in normal women’s stores eg Rockmans but would find a bigger range if I could just drop a few more kilos.
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Thanks Sujay. A timely reminder that transition can be a rough road.
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Hi Rachel
I’m glad laser worked so well for you. Mine started that way but then came back stronger and a little darker. -
This is my second go at this topic. As you probably realise I self-identify as MtF Transsexual, albeit a late bloomer and with medical issues that suggest I may never manage SRS. I am happy to consider myself falling under the umbrella of Transgender.
Browsing http://www.femulate.org recently I came across a reference to a new book “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Modern Manual By and For Trans People”
It sounds to be a great book. Full of positive stories by trans people. scrolling down through comments on the book and past initial positive reactions I came to a series of comment posts by Transwomen which were disappointing, even disturbing.
In the disappointing category were those women who didn’t want to be included in the umbrellas of LGBTI or Transgender. They were successful TS and women, full stop.
In the disturbing category were the above group who thought putting them in an umbrella group was a conspiracy to devalue them.
Worse, others denigrated TG people who wanted to transition without surgery and or hormones as “fetishistic transgenders” not real TS.
It really is disappointing that even trans people can’t accept the validity of other transpeople.
I hope this link works:
http://www.npr.org/2014/07/17/332051691/trans-bodies-trans-selves-a-modern-manual-by-and-for-trans-people -
Hi Glenda there are a few fairly cheap padded hips on Ebay that don’t look to bad. Or head on down to Clark Rubber buy some foam & make your own
. But yes if you want confort & real looks better save your pennies gurl 
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Here are a few links to some i found on Ebay.
http://www.ebay.com.au/itm/Push-Up-Bottom-Hips-Girdle-Pants-Padded-Knickers-Transgender-CD-/301241931639?pt=UK_Women_s_Lingerie&var&hash=item46236b1777&_uhb=1
http://www.ebay.com.au/itm/NEW-PADDED-REAR-BUTT-HIPS-ENHANCER-SHAPER-GIRDLE-XL-8-NUDE-/230873491953?pt=US_Shapewear&hash=item35c121e9f1&_uhb=1
http://www.ebay.com.au/sch/i.html?_odkw=drag+queen&_osacat=11450&_from=R40&LH_PrefLoc=2&_trksid=p2045573.m570.l1313.TR11.TRC1.A0.H0.Xhip+pads&_nkw=hip+pads&_sacat=11450 -
I think Dianne is 100% right. I think the distinction amongst transitioning TGs has as much to do with opportunity and practicality as desire.
Speaking as one who suppressed my desires for a long while for family and work reasons, I now find that however hard I want to ditch my maleness there is a lot of history in the way. Learned social behaviour to be unlearned. Male bone structure which cannot be wound back. Hair issues and voice which take a lot of time and money to fix. If I can get all that sorted in a reasonable amount of time (I’m on hormones and having electrolysis), I’ll be able to choose between life as an openly trans person or maybe even as a woman. Oh sorry I forgot to mention SRS.
I won’t even think about that until everything else is sorted because at my age (66) I’m pretty much asexual and surgery is a big deal. Also surgeons have fiddled with my plumbing before and I avoided incontinence by a hair’s breadth. Is a functional vagina, that I don’t intend to invite anyone to admire or use, worth the risk of incontinence.
So I agree we are all individuals with different transition routes and potential end-points but SRS is not a relevant dividing point down the middle of our multi-faceted group. -
This was in the Sydney press too. I took two positive messages out of it. The thrust of the article was an argument for the matter to be left to the child, parents and medicos and for the court to stand back. Perhaps even more important it was yet another article/program with a positive message about TGs. There really has been a flood this year. I might start believing Adrian’s thesis that we are approaching a tipping point of acceptance. Certainly with the media on side we are well on the way.
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I’ve struggled for ages with beard shadow without much success. I don’t like heavy make-up. It’s okay for photos but not for going out. Last year I had the beard zapped by laser and for a few months it was light enough to allow me to use normal foundation or even mineral make-up. This year despite more laser it has come back a bit darker. I’ve surrendered to the inevitable and am booked in for my first electrolysis session on Friday.
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I really only want to reply to this thread if my reply contributes something to the subject.
I am not sure it does that well enough but here goes.
How often do we read or hear the best way to go unnoticed is to go with confidence? If that is indeed the goal. Some do want to be noticed.
I don’t.
I, a bit like Adrian, just do it. Liz I do and I really haven’t felt any apprehension often at all, if at all.
I cannot explain it other than I rarely experience nerves in any situation. Public speaking etc. I am not trying to be arrogant it is my makeup not something I am proud of it is just me.
So is it that I don’t display nervousness that allows me not to be nervous? (Work that out and play fair.)
So what is my contribution, I guess it is ‘who cares?’ Just do it. don’t make a spectacle and express yourself as you wish.
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“In a nutshell” “expressing our (my) gender” to the topic of “What exactly does it mean to feel like a woman?” Is so easily expressed if one puts the horse before the cart, not the other way round.
My gender is female; that makes me a woman. Hence my emotions, thoughts, feelings, expressions, psyche, actions must be that of a woman.
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The assertion below is not supported by a reference to a published paper. I have searched the articles presented at the last WPATH (Bangkok) and am unable to find any paper making such a simple assertion. If, indeed, such clear research exists it is worth posting the details in a separate thread so it can be more appropriately critiqued.Research from the recent WPATH conference that is coming out of Amsterdam, indicates neuroscientists have proven beyond doubt the existence of two completely different organs; that being the female and male brain. Their research was not based on the actual physiological construction, but more realistically on its neurological functioning.
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When I first came out to my wife over 30 years ago she asked if I had a girl name. I hadn’t thought about that but quickly decided I should. I wanted a plain non-fussy name and I wanted to avoid all names already taken by close friends and relatives. “Carol” fitted the bill and now I can’t imagine myself with another name.