Bridgette
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There are very little words I can offer you other than, keep battling on. Sometimes days can seem very long and full of shadows of doubt and pain. Remember there is always a Tomorrow.
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Whilst I will admit there are those in society that are at ends to accept Trans gender people, I would hate to think Australia could draw parallel to American Society and the problems it faces. I would doubt that the Main stream American would have any tolerance for anything other than guns. Lets face it, they cant ban automatic weapons so the cultural change for Transgender would be unimaginable. To their credit they have legislated Gay Marriage. But hen again, some people refuse tso marry same sex couples and some others refuse to make them wedding cakes! :silly:
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What a brilliant clip! So incisive and inspirational to us all .. Thank you for posting it
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What an outstanding and interesting clip. It’s unspeakable to think what she had to go through to change her life. I think its amazing she has come through everything so well and is so complete.. That clip alone should empower all those on their journey.. Thank you so much for sharing.
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I did enjoy this analogy very much. It’s obvious you have spent some time trying to put your thoughts and journey into words. I’m glad life is working out for you and that you have crossed many barriers relatively unscathed. I took the time to view your profile and you appear relaxed and very much at ease. Some never get that far or feel that way.
Your story took me back to my childhood and my mother being left handed. She once told me she was forced to write right handed when she was a child at school. Punishment was being hit constantly on the offending hand until she obeyed.
Strange how things have changed. That behavior would never be tolerated in schools anymore as it’s barbaric.
My only comment would be, penmanship, regardless of the predominant hand is only the extension of the mind and the wonderful thoughts that lie within. I think the world is a better place since you shared your story.
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I feel a bit helpless in providing any advice to you in your moment of need. Especially as I have been away and only just logged on. You sound desperate and in need of professional assistance. I suggest you try to find a qualified person to assist you with your situation before it becomes too much for you.
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It’s hard to know why people have fears. Perhaps its some instilled behavior when we are children, being told what is good and bad and the punishment that is associated with bad behavior. Perhaps it’s a confidence issue, where sometimes we see people do things as routine and we find it difficult to start the same simple task in fear we cannot find or pursue and end. I don’t know the answer to this complex behavioral trait and there are better people than me with doctorates that have explored and written about this.
I am glad there are professionals that can provide strategies to overcome some fears and allow people to grow into valuable souls that contribute to the mixed fabric of society. From my perspective all I can and must do is to continue to foster good will and encourage others. -
I’m I not overly impressed with Mx. It sounds as if someone has deleted a chromosome.
I’m not sure how or who came up with this idea but it seems a little unimportant. I think someone has already commented on the issue where it is going to make others feel at ease rather than provide a legal title for transgender people.Heavens forbid we ever have two loving and caring transgender people try to be legally married. -
Thank you for your thoughtful response. I guess in the long run the life you have created and the extent of the paths that surround your garden can only be navigated by you. Tempered by your feelings for those who mean most to you
Best wishes
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I know this is a hypothetical however, I would assume that if you were hit by a Bus, you may have survived and now face the task of explaining to those that know you, about your inner self. I think it is quite reasonable to assume that those around you would deal with your significant injuries and hope you heal to the best of your ability and would be more concerned about your well being. So I doubt that it would have a very high significance in the first instance. Of course, if your saying that the “Hypothetical” accident was fatal; then I think those that you know would probably say. “Of all the great things he did and the lives he effected, why didn’t he feel as if he could confide in me”!
Life is a bit too short .. You should exercise a bit more trust ..perhaps just as a thought. -
I’m interested in the use of the terms “Safer and More Effective” and how its used in quoting the context of the extract?
As I’m a bit of a novice I can only assume Safer refers to – Emotional Stress during the journey or does it relate to interaction with those around us that are not acceptant of our individual decisions. Can someone expand on that for me as I’m quite interested in this discussion.
As a part of that and attempting to ascertain the second quote “More Effective” – What is meant by that? More effective as a transitional plan or more effective as active people within society. It would be extremely interesting to hear peoples examples of that. I may be wrong and off course and if so I apologise in advance. -
Dear me!
I fear I may have bought this on by a post I added to last night after being absent for a few months. I never thought there would be people who would find it “Annoying” for want of a better word. Perhaps it’s my own ignorance. So .. From this moment on I’ll try not to use the Term again .. Rather, I’ll replace it with “En tant que femme” ..better I think.
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I think its fair to say its hard to know how we feel and when we feel for someone we could be attracted to. I know I can feel attracted to a man as much as I could a woman. Attraction to people who dress and identify as transgender is also a consideration. I guess the attraction whether sexual or just admiration is always in the eye of the beholder. As for sexual attraction who knows. I think we are more complex as human beings as we want to know at times. Simply a little hamstrung by life’s experiences.
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I must admit I have driven en-femme at least half a dozen times but mostly at night. Having personalized plates doesn’t help. So a Hire car is the only way to go for me. No issues with clothes though as I have a semi supportive partner. There is a thrill associated with it ..If only the ability to drive in heels
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The article made for an interesting read. I can only say by my own experience that attitudes have changed for the better over the years. I have been married and my first wife, when I told her, said that I needed to speak to a marriage councillor. Strangely enough after two to three visits the end quotation was “The two of you would be probably better off going your own way”. Of course my then wife was a devout Catholic (yes church every Sunday) and it probably had more to do with religious beliefs more that the two of us working it out.
I’m luckier these days as I have a partner who is aware of my needs and tolerates them. Of course, we will never be shopping for clothes for me together but that’s ok with me as I like doing my own shopping anyway. To her credit she has bought me lingerie on occasions. So I’m both grateful and happier for her understanding.
Opinions have changed over the years, professionals have better reference material to assist people with Transitioning and/or assisting those to feel comfortable with who they are.
I think as we get older, we become more wise and more comfortable with what we have achieved as individuals and care little for peoples opinions on our physical characteristics or appearance.
Best to live life as the people we want to be rather than regret the years we may have missed.
