[Fay]

Thanks for your kind words Emma.

Mel certainty is a great daughter. She has been my rock since my wife passed away. Don’t know what I would have done without her.

Now she is partying and dancing with her Dad, I mean Fay. She had a great time at TF and wants to come again next year. She thinks all my girl friends are wonderful and that the majority are better looking than her girl friends!

Butt, excuse the pun, back to the topic. Before I came out in public back in 2007 my only excursions were the sneaky walk down a deserted shopping strip or a walk through a school yard where there was little chance of being seen. Now with a little confidence gained from TgR and the Internet and changed community standards I can stroll down Main Street in broad daylight with my head held high as the TGLBGBLTXVZ community is now accepted by most people. There is no longer the need for young people to slink around and hide from prying eyes like we used to. Thus the covert style of organisation i.e. Seahorse and some private groups are struggling to survive and open groups like TgR with open public events such as TransFormal and TransFusion are gaining popularity.

TransFormal must survive because it provides the perfect opportunity for older first timers to experience the feeling of dressing freely in a public forum with so much support from their peers. This year there were a large number of first timers including Stephanie58, who by the way looked amazing, It also provided an opportunity for my daughter, and probably other partners, to meet the CD and TR community

She things we are a crazy lot, not strange, not weird, just crazy and that is a complement.

Thank you all for making her so welcome.

And yes as a 9 year veteran, I think this years was absolutely the best so far. Thank you Adrian and Megan for all the hard yards. Perhaps if I am retired next year I could lend a hand.

Hugs to all,

Fay

[Fay]

On behalf of Mel~
Emma you are amazing and I loved having a fag with you Oh LA LA!
Remember what I said do it for you and how good it makes you feel. Don’t give a rats arse about what others think! Own it girl! You have the legs that I don’t. Everyone looked amazing, gorgeous and glamorous! Loved every minute!
Can’t wait for our next adventure
I’ll send you orchids my lovely Em

[Fay]

Hi Jessica and others.
I am currently working in Canberra during the week and have been travelling with two wardrobes. Unless meeting up with work colleagues for dinner and maybe trivia, as soon as I return to the hotel I transform and wander out to eat and maybe have a Jack or two as Fay. Feels exhilarating and liberating to be able to perform normal female behaviours while dressed.

[Fay]

I have only just broached this one as I only came out to my daughter and granddaughter late last year.

When dressed as Fay my 40 y.o. daughter calls me Fay however my 19 y.o. granddaughter has continued to call me Pop. Works for me either way.

We will see what happens at TransFormal, my daughter looks like she will come along to meet all my lovely friends. Might keep a tally of Fay Vs Dad.

[Fay]

That’s just what I am doing Jessica. I have started going out for meals with a friend in Newtown. What a liberating experience. Wish I could have done it earlier in life.

Hugs,

Fay

[Fay]

Thanks Claire. I was aware of these studios but wondered if any one here had experience with any of them.
If i don’t have any response I’ll give one of them a go and report back.
Heaps of hugs,

Fay

[Fay]

Great experience Bree. After coming out to my daughter recently, we have decided to find the right moment to have a conversation with my 18 y.o. granddaughter. As she lives with me that will make my life so much easier and relieve the burden of deceit. It will also make my life a lot more relaxed with out the tension and fear of leaving Fay’s stuff around. Will update after we talk.

Fay

[Fay]

Great article. Lots of very helpful tips and most important the sequence of application. Good lighting and plenty of practice is very important.

[Fay]

Some nice shoes and as you say quiet reasonably priced. PLEASE KEEP FAY AWAY! She does not need any more shoes.

[Fay]

Claire this is exactly the situation I was in. I had to tell someone otherwise there would be too many unanswered questions for those loved ones left behind and that would not be fair to them or my memory. I decided to opt for who I thought would be most accepting and bite the bullet.
I know now that I have told my daughter and explained what she will find in my side of the wardrobe when I pass on, was the right thing to do. It gave her the opportunity to accept or reject, to ask questions or answer ones she suspected. There will be no shock and wonder when the time comes to clear out Dad’s stuff. Just get a large garbage bag, or a large packet of them, or maybe a skip bin, and tip the stuff into a recycle bin and she will know that Fay existed..
If the person you choose does not accept your life choice at least someone will know what actually transpired instead of deep dark unknown secrets.
I know each and every situation will be different but I know now that I did the right thing for my family.

[Fay]

Some really great items on all the lists above. I have some more to add but not necessarily in order.

* The feel of shiny lace top stockings on shaved legs
* The feel of the straps on a 6 strap garter belt pulling on my body as I walk
* The feeling of walking in high heels (everybody knows how I love heels!)
* The feel of a petticoat (or two or three) ruffling under a retro dress.
* The silky feel of a negligee on cotton sheets
* The grip of a firm corsets embrace.
* The flow of a long gown around the ankles.
* And most of all the feeling of being feminine.

[Fay]

Following on from Caro’s suggestions

1. Continue last years idea of a theme night on Friday .The 20’s theme was fabulous but perhaps another idea is ‘dress to your own personal delight” .. Perhaps Retro 50/60s

2. Wine tasting sessions are IMO a necessity for TF But is it possible we can do it in the Cellars rather than Library for this year , the cellars have fabulous ambience even if it means a walk in the cool mountain air Not a wine buff, spirits and cocktails are more my style

3 Lets find some one who can run a session on the finer points of eye make up. IMO the most difficult art to master . Make up sessions are always a good idea. Q&A why does my lipstick bleed?

4. The pool competition last year was great fun lets do it again.Missed last years but sounds like a great idea.

5.. Lets go with Big Radio Dynamite as our band AGAIN!! YES

6. I would like feedback please on those who might like a series of individual portrait shots taken during the Saturday evening Please DO NOT respond under this post just message me via the website so I can gauge interest level to discuss ideas and possible costs with our Photographer depends on price and timing

7. The dinner speaker idea last year was superb . Can we find some one else to deliver an inspiring talk for 15-20mins ??????
8. Enjoyed the game show last year. A repeat or something similar?

[Fay]

Hi Claire.

All I did was apply for a supplementary card in my wife’s name, intercepted the pin and card, easy when you have a PO box, signed the back with my femme signature and all done!

Makes my feel secure when paying as Fay. :whistle:

[Fay]

Good evening folks. I can relate to most of the experiences above as I often drive en femme. During the school holidays I often make several solo trips to and from ‘The Shire’ and Ulladulla on the south coast.(just on 200kms.)

A typical trip would go something like this;
a) Depart family and holiday home wearing Fay’s undies and male external attire.
b) Pull of the highway a kilometre or so up the road and transform into Fay.
c) This includes make up, wig, jewellery and of course nothing less than 4″ heels.
d) Strangely I always have to stop for fuel on the way home. Never get a second glance until I have to say “number 1” in my unfeminine voice. I do have a credit card in a feminine name so that part goes OK.
e) Continue to destination and remain as Fay until required present as male for work.

Some added benefits are that I don’t speed, I drive less aggressively and seem to stay much more alert. Don’t want to be pulled over by the constabulary :ohmy:

One thing I have noticed is that when stopped at a red light some male drivers in the adjacent lanes will note the female hairstyle from behind and edge up to “check out the chick.” (Must be a disappointment to spot me. :S

I enjoy every opportunity that I can to present as Fay.

Keep frocking up, hugs Fay

[Fay]

Well I totally agree with all the comments above. Fantastic weekend, well done Amanda, Megan and all the behind the scenes helpers. I particularly enjoyed the Friday theme night with most guests joining in the dress up fun. I thought the Saturday activities were much more relaxed than in previous years, probably because I didn’t try to attend every one!

Saturday night was the usual success with lots of gorgeous gowns and dresses. Music was great again and it’s a shame that one bung lung Fay could only manage 5 minutes on the dance floor.

During a quite moment on Sunday Amanda asked me what I thought could be improved upon and I honestly couldn’t think of a thing. Transformal has matured like a fine wine.

God willing I’ll be there in 2017.

Hugs to all, Fay.