[Fay]

Toni-Anne, this is exactly my situation. My spouse has no idea how much and the variety of feminine clothes and accessories that are secreted in many hiding places. It is reassuring to know that the emergency services and police are sympathetic and sensitive.

I also know that large companies are prepared for such events. Some years ago a colleague past away on an overseas trip I was on and the HR person sent over arranged with the hotel to have a quick check of the room before his wife and daughter were given access to his room. HR person confided in me that I would be surprised what she had found in similar circumstances. :ohmy:

For some time I have considered revealing Fay to my Daughter so that she could clear out the majority of Fay’s wardrobe but am afraid that her loud mouthed partner would tell the world if he suspected anything. :blush:

Another option I have considered is labelling some suitcases “In the event of my demise, please dispose of this suitcase without opening“. But that is too inviting to take a peek. :whistle:

Will be interesting to see others responses to this dilemma.
Hugs,
Fay

[Fay]

Wendy I can totally relate. I am in a similar position to you. Just turned 70 but feel much younger when dressed up. Since retiring fay is unable to have fun business trips anymore. We could be soulmates if you weren’t so far away.
Hugs
Fay

[Fay]

One of the major milestones on my journey was when I stopped concentrating on trying to “pass” and just enjoyed the experience of being dressed. Once I’m out I don’t care what others think. However I do try to avoid what could be a confronting situation such as a group of teenage lads or 20 year olds with a skin full.
Young children can also pose problems and are keen at spotting ” that’s a man over there”
Experiences such as the Opera Bar and Carrington where staff and other patrons don’t turn an eye or are chatty and friendly build self confidence and show that we can blend in socially as good as any GG.
There is nothing wrong with vast majority of people, it’s just the vocal minority that stir things up or mock us to have some so called fun at our expense.
Slowly the pendulum is swinging our way and we are being accepted by more and more people!

[Fay]

Reading the posts above there is not much that has not already been said.

Thanks must go to Amanda and Megan for thier tireless work in arranging all the details required to make the weekend happen seamlessly. I would be very interested to see the “Weather Request” form that Amanda submits each year.

Unfortunately due to personal health reasons, I had to bail at about 10PM but still had a wonderful time over the weekend. Apologies to those that I missed catching up with, I had looked forward to utilising that extra hour in the Bar.

Well done once again Amanda and team TF.

When are the tickets for TF 2015 on sale?

Fay

[Fay]

On the 29th august Vicki posted an alert on purchasing from the Chinese site DHgate

“On the 9 August I used an online shopping site DHGATE and after several weeks and messing me about no product.

Avoid this site.

Vicki “

My personal experience from this site is excellent. I have purchased over a dozen items from earrings, shoes, clothing and other “equipment” and have found their service and quality most satisfactory.

Only warning is to be careful with sizes as they tend to quote US sizing but most sites within DHgate give a listing of alternate and conversion measurements.

On 1 occasion an item was reposted 2 weeks later and now I have 2 items!

DHgate appears to be like a central clearing house for many suppliers.

Fay.

[Fay]

No problems with my Yahoo email. Still same classic version and I hardly have any spam. Maybe 5 or 6 a month. I think it’s more to do with sites you visit and who you send emails to.
Hugs,

Fay

[Fay]

Speaking of rats, I think I have the solution.

Politicians!!!!

Mmmm maybe too controversial.

[Fay]

Sorry fellow TGers, I quite like the shoes. I must however admit to having a “thing” about high heels. I know that when I dress the very last thing I would want to wear is an old pair of boots or rubber thongs.

Gems just don’t do it for me. Needs to have a bit of fun about it.

Now knickers, that could be interesting!!!!

Cheers,

Fay

[Fay]

My top 5 in no particular order are:

1. The feeling of silky stockings on shaven legs.

2. The swish of a long skirt around my legs.

3. Wearing high heels and walking with a feminine gait

4. Meeting and chatting with other CD’s and discussing fashions.

5. Window shopping and drooling at feminine clothes.

I also find that when I am out as Fay I have a different personality and want to be more outgoing.

Happy dressing, Fay

[Fay]

Amanda, Gina and Victoria.

I have just read the proposal for UTS post-graduate students to film at TransFormal.

I must lodge a strong objection to this proposal. I do understand the benefits of promoting gender diversity, however the confidentiality of myself and other attendees would be breached.

I have not revealed my femme side to family, friends or work colleagues as have many other guests at the two previous events. My family, friends and work colleagues do however know that I spend a weekend at Katoomba each May but assume that it is with a hobby group that I associate with.

If this documentary were to be “offered to a free-to-air television network” where it could be viewed by said persons I am sure they would deduce the true nature of my weekend retreat and it would be extremely embarrassing and cause untold repercussions in both my private and corporate life.

I am sure that I would not be alone in objecting to this pending breach of trust.

I would have no problem with the documentary being “hosted on the student journalism website, Reportage” but unless assured it would NOT be shown on free-to-air or cable networks, I would have to withdraw my support and attendance at this years event.

Amanda, I have sent you an email as above and copied in some friends that I have planned to meet on the weekend.

Regards,

Fay.

[Fay]

A gathering of trans sisters is the first thing that comes to my mind.

[Fay]

Hi Abbie.
Down here in Sydney boots are usualy more of a late Autumn to early Spring type of thing. However each to their own, there are some that wear Ugg boots with miniskirts. Not my idea of fashion! To get an idea of what people are wearing, have a look at the gossip pages in the No Idea, sorry New Idea, and the Women’s Way, I mean Womens’s Day, closer to the event.
See you there,
Fay

[Fay]

Hi Noeleena.

I understand where you are coming from in that anyone has a right to express themselves. However the point I am making is whether you are male, female or somewhere in between it’s not what you wear, it’s where you wear it!

You don’t wear a swimming costume to a formal, you don’t wear formal clothes to the office, you don’t present as a prostitute or a pimp to a job interview (Well the vast majority of job interviews anyway ). Call me a fuddy duddy if you like but I don’t even thing a singlet, shorts and thongs, (flip flops not the undies) are suitable attire while flying. Dress codes are applied and enforced in all types of venues in Oz, licensed Clubs, hotels, night clubs, building sites, even on the beaches. I’m sure a manager or supervisor would have more than a few words to say if someone turned up for work dressed as our subject airline passenger whether they be male or female.

Society has perceived dress standards for most occasions and “men to walking down the road’s with pretty much nothing on in front of 1000’s of men, women, & children at a gay pride week march or on motor bikes with skimpy knickers nothing else, & women in knickers only” is perceived acceptable for that occasion. If fact it’s what you expect any probably why you are there. No problem. But not at the airport!

If people do present to somewhere like an airport or the office dressed as the person in the article then they must expect an adverse reaction. Sure you need to “check on their welfare” and have “concerns for these people” and you and anyone else that cares or provides welfare have my total support and admiration.

Sure society may not be right in all cases, but without its conventions civilisation as we know it would collapse into disarray and we may as well return to the wilderness.

The type of public behavior and attention exibited by this person sets back the cause of trans gendered people by many years of hard won public aceptance.

This is just my humble fuddy duddy opinion but if the actions of one “odd” person bring the crusades of many over a long period into disrepute then they cannot be condoned.

Everyone has the right to be themselves, but everyone does not have to accept them.

Hugs Fay

[Fay]

Sorry Noeleena but I can’t agree with you. My opinion aligns with Michele, Pamela and Karly. Even if this person was a born genuine female with the looks of a goddess she should have been asked to cover up more on a public flight. Irrespective of who we are there are acceptable dress standards for most situations. That was not acceptable.
I once flew from Sydney to Norfolk Island sitting next to a stripper/working girl that had been engaged by a Norfolk Island club for a mens night. She was dressed appropriate to her profession. Even though I struck up a conversation with her and found she was quiet well educated and pleasant to chat with, it was the most embarrassing and uncomfortable flight I have ever had. And I was a 30 Y.O. rampart male at the time.
Perhaps THAT was the problem! 😳 😈

[Fay]

The analytical Engineers answer to your question is there are twice as many chairs as there need be! Similar to the half full or half empty glass of water question. The glass is too big.

I’ll be there to help in any way I can Amanda. I might be an old boiler but I love putting lights away in 5″ heels. Looking forward to another great weekend.

Hugs,

Fay