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Emma, Jaclyn, Naomi & Raelene

Thanks for organising a terrific event.
It was great to catch up with you and meet new people.

I know all the Sydney girls enjoyed the evening.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Amanda,
Congratulations on your milestone being reached.
Both myself and Wendy appreciate your efforts in maintaining a fantastic dynamic site for all members. This site provides communications, details of Australia wide resources and personal support to new members as required.
We have noticed the member interaction within the chatroom to be very dynamic and this is reflected in the growing membership & the attendance of a large number of TR members at the recent Seahorse Society Ball.
Once again, many thanks for your invaluable contribution.
Wenorah (hehe).

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Ladies,
I don’t think anyone frowns or discriminates against any member on TR for we all realise we are the same yet individually very different.
The key issues are:
1. TgR is not a “pick up” joint.
2. Most girls do not want unsolicited approaches.
3. If you want to explore the sexual aspect then be honest in your profile disclosure.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Ladies,
From what I have read over the years it is quite evident that everyone’s disclose is different as is their journey.
The main thing that we seek is understanding and hopefully with that acceptance but it does not necessarily follow.
At the same time, we should be exhibiting the same qualities. However, this may prove difficult if the communication lines are not there.

Unfortunately, there is no simple solution.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Helen,

I know your comment wasn’t aimed at me or anyone in particular – just a photographers broad assessment.

Same here, just replying to Jane’s comments and the difficulties she’s experiencing. I don’t have those problems.

Having been a film person all my life until recently, having fun with digital. It’s all in the equipment – quality always gives better results.

Still prefer film for my medium format Landscape photography.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Helen & Jane,

I don’t call myself a professional Photographer but a keen enthusiast.

Have only switched from film to digital for my 35mm photography during the last 12 months.

I really have no problems with quality or lighting – its all in the equipment.

I use a Canon 20D with professional lenses and studio lighting and never had a problem. However for Studio work always shoot in manual mode and do a few test shots to set up aperture and speed. I might end up half an F stop out but that can be readily adjusted on computer.

I just find digital great for my cross dressing photo’s as I see immediate results.

All my other photography is medium format.

The small digital camera’s are basically for fun snaps.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Ladies,

I think it is a personal thing and shows the stage of ones journey.

For me ( and I’m no expert), initially it was the fear of being discovered. Then I realised most would not identify me and now I really don’t care if someone does. Wendy is a big part of my life and she has been accepted by the other (male) half.

Whilst I would like to know what someone looks like when I chat to them it is not essential. The key issues are friendship, help and support.

Eventually, when girls have the confidence they will post their pics.

Having said that, there are a few exceptions to the rule but they become very obvious.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Emma,

Your never one for a few words but agree wholeheartedly.

I think we could produce a better version here – maybe we should approach SBS (hehe). We could have a few stars in the making.

Overall, did not learn to much from it and presenters hairstyle was a good advertisement for Wigs or a visit to a hair stylist.

At least, it was a start.

Cheers.

Wendy

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Well, my thoughts were that it was pretty average.

Nothing startling new and I thought the presenter was trying to steer the whole thing in his/her direction.

I would have liked more depth in some areas, particularly So’s & general public overview (what they understood and what their position was).

But I suppose, at least it got an airing and it wasn’t trashy.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Ana,
Going out in public is really a confidence thing and probably Big M was not the ideal place to start. Your partner’s experience would not have helped the confidence but no doubt made aware of Societies diverse attitudes to CD. Have said that, don’t let that experience override the necessity of going out but suggest taking smaller steps (more selective in places that your partner goes to) until the confidence is stronger.

The key issues are dress sense and deportment, both of which are a challenge for the mere male when starting out and takes time to be developed.

My suggestion is that your partner joins a support group (which are generally open to both partners). Brisbane has Seahorse and they are a great bunch of girls (having been out with them on my visits to Qld). They will provide advice and as well go out as a group.
Meeting people & making friends with others that have the same interests helps in this journey.

Seahorse contact details are listed on this site.

Hope this helps,

Cheers,

Wendy

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Girls,

Posting photo’s is certainly a personal thing and it doesn’t change my approach to who I talk to on this site, notwithstanding that there is a preference on my part to have some type of idea who I’m chatting to.

In my case I originally had some reluctance to post because of the fear of being identified but that has eased as I’m comfortable that is unlikely.

I also consider that viewing photo’s gives one a better measure of how one improves in appearance & dress sense on the road to passability (not that will be fully achieved). I look back at my earlier photo’s and say YUK but then at the same time I can see my time & effort in improving have produced some positive results.

Of course there are negatives, unsolicited e-mails from “admirers” but the wonders of technology have also provided the delete key.

In the end, some girls have them (photo’s) and others don’t and it doesn’t bother me at all. After all, we are all in different circumstances and in different parts of our journey (wherever that may be taking us).

Wouldn’t it be a sad world if we were all the same.

Post your pics if you like, but if you don’t no critisism from me.

Hugs,

Wendy

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Judy & others,

I saw this post as well.

It really re-enforces the need that we must talk to and look after each other.
No problem is insurmountable but we need to communicate at all times (good & bad) and not hold issues within ourselves that may lead to hurting ourselves or other people who care.

Cheers,

Wendy

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Joan,

There is little by way of options except for breast forms.
I would recommend silicon forms as they provide some weight and movement when worn. You can get them from numerous internet sites to be worn in the bra or styles that can be attached to body.
Perhaps a further foam pair for sleeping, if that’s your desire as silicon forms are not suitable for that use.
Price ranges vary considerable so be careful on that front.
I have found the US based “Breast Form Store” the best on price (UK prices are way to high) and delivery is great.

Hope that helps

Cheers,

Wendy

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Hi Girl,

Well Tanya, it appears that there is not much difference between our thoughts at all.

The traits that I talked about come from a leadership programme (Power of Servant Leadership) but should be part of everyone’s life. It is remarkable that the author and driver of this programme advocated these traits in his writings in the 60’s and they are only now becoming the noticed and driven as the ideal.

Tanya you are quite right in saying that the female environment has changed with the competitiveness in sport , work and social life – the latter being influenced by trashy movies and the roles some actors project.

If all of us (as you rightly pointed out irrespective of race, colour & creed) strive to adopted these positive traits then the world would be a better place to live in (and here I mean society in general, neighbours, communities & nations).

The clear issue is to understand and not be judgemental and that is very hard – society projects that we become judgemental (look at your news and current affairs items). If we all learn to understand, wow, what a great place. I can alway recall reading that great book by Harper Lee – To Kill a Mocking Bird (page 219 from memory) – understand is about “standing in a man’s shoes and walking in them”.

How does all this relate to CD’s – we talk about acceptance and understanding and at the same time when our position is disclosed or if we are ridiculed we go into hiding, perhaps complain about the other person when in fact we should be trying to inform and persuade the other person. If that is unsuccessful we should (sorry, must) try and understand the other persons point of view. There are always two sides to the story and whilst we would like acceptance of our position this is not always going to happen. The best that we can ask for that other people understand and the same applies to us.

The need for all of us, whether in CD or male mode, is to present the right example (leadership, traits) for all people – it is not as many would like us to believe “winning is everything”.

Between, all this and my CD I believe that I am becoming a better person and try to encourage people to share these traits that are more visible but not restricted to the female gender.

I wish the younger woman would realise the numerous positives they have and there is no need for them to adopt the combative roles that are projected by some males to be successful in whatever venture.

I forever live in hope and see numerous positives in a lot of younger people, it all boils down to, as I put it, “maturity of mind” and the ability to think for yourself.

Anyway, that’s enough from me whilst having an early morning coffee.

I’m running late – so not proof reading my message.

Hugs,

Wendy

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Emma,

Sounds like the premier event in Adelaide for 2007.
I booked my ticket this week.

How about some company from other girls in the Eastern States. Knowing Emma and a few of the organisers it will be a great event and worthwhile supporting.

You only live once, don’t worry about the expense, if you book early the airfare won’t be that expensive

Cheers,

Wendy