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I just checked my NSW licence and there’s no gender information on it either. It still has a very butch picture of me that I’ll have fixed in April when it needs renewing.

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I’ll probably get dumped on for this but I think the male/female dichotomy is necessary for those who want to be neither. Otherwise what are they choosing not to be?

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Thanks Claire. I’ve recently cancelled my subscription to STAN but I’d already paid for January and it seemed a shame to waste it. I’ve just spent a couple of hours on a lazy Sunday afternoon enjoying this movie.

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I often wonder whether the yardstick of acceptance is the an appropriate beacon to gauge the level of happiness one seeks.

Obviously self acceptance is an imperative. Without self acceptance, it’s like having a car without an engine. Pretty to look at, nice to sit in, but it’s not going anywhere.

However, I believe irrespective of who or what you are, it’s impossible to aspire, least of all attain acceptance, either consciously or subconsciously, by everyone in our circle of influence. And that circle of influence can be as wide as the general public we’ve never met that we encounter each and every day.

Happy New Year

Catherine

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I like this thread. Thank you everyone for your common sense, honest posts.
For me the big breakthrough came, after many outings where I tried to pass and didn’t know whether I was succeeding or people were just being polite, when I went to electrolysis on my beard fully dressed as Carol with 3 days of stubble. People, from petrol station attendants to mothers in the park, were just as accepting and gave me smiles, as much as people did when I was shaved with full make-up.
I think the theory that people accept you if you put an effort into your appearance but not otherwise is rubbish. Nice people are always nice people and that is the majority of the human race. So I don’t care whether I pass or not but I will try to dress appropriately for the occasion and smile at the people I meet.

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If I’m honest I’d say “Sometimes yes sometimes no”. When I’ve had uninterrupted time to be myself or when I’ve made a significant step forward in my transition for example, I overflow with positive happy thoughts. That’s my mood right now. At other times when I need to suppress my true self for the sake of others or when circumstances block progress, it’s all too easy to wonder why I bother and on really bad days to get quite depressed. On balance though I think if I took the magic pill to stop being transgender I’d always wonder why there was a big hole in my life and what used to fill it.

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Hi Liz,

It may still be with you, but you have the choice to empower it, or disempower it.

Everyone has the right of their own opinion, it’s up to those who that opinion is directed at to accept or decline ownership of the opinion.

Disempower it like water on a ducks back and disown it.

Happy New Year

Catherine

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What if, there was no label to cling onto? How would that change the dynamic?

Catherine

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There’s good news and bad re: Transparent.

Bad: I just heard on the radio that TG actress Holly Woodlawn has died aged 69 from liver cancer. Holly played Vivian in 2 episodes of Series 1 of Transparent but is probably most famous as the inspiration for Lou Reed’s 1972 song “Take a Walk on the Wild Side”. The song starts with lines based on the true story where Holly aged 15 hitchhikes from Florida to California en route plucking her eyebrows and shaving her legs, switching from boy to girl.

Good: Series 2 of Transparent has started. Episode 1 is available on Amazon and STAN.

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You’re absolutely right Christina. It really comes down to what value one places on honesty, truth, integrity and authenticity. If a parent wants these hallmark qualities to be the foundation for their children and family to live by, then one has to really live those values to the highest order, otherwise children see them as being worthless ideals.

Sure makes for some interesting discussion times round the family dinner table and even more inspiring life choices.

Best wishes
Catherine

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Thanks Christina. I took the opportunity to look at a couple of links to the “old bird’s” other interviews. Well worth while.

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Moss! Trans-allies extraordinaire!!

Belle was a force of nature, who packed so much into such a short life. Shows you the power of getting out there.

https://radio.adelaide.edu.au/moss-susan-craig-mark-simpkin/

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Thanks Christina. As well as enjoying the pictures and shuddering at the questions I clicked on a link offered to April Ashley’s photo album. That really took me back to my early days but it’s another story.

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The pain is real. What do I mean?

I was watching YouTube clips that people walking bare foot on fire, so when our feet are in good condition we can even stand on fire, but when our feet are badly injured, even a gentle touch from our doctor can make us scream and it’s not a fake screaming, it’s real, the pain is real.

Honey, you feel bad by these things, because you are injured, otherwise it doesn’t matter what others call us. In worse case, it shows the person in front of us has some personality issues to work on .

All the best,
Sana