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The show turned out better than I thought it would. I’ve met four of the participants in real life. Tanya, Ophelia, President Susan and her wife, all lovely people. I think the show stressed the “Secret Society” angle a bit much. The Society is wide open to contact. It’s just that many members want to keep this aspect of their lives to themselves or to a limited group.
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Well I’m 5’10”, 86kg, broad shouldered and an 18 top half. When I used forms C cup was about right. Now growing my own and somewhere between B and C, I’ve ditched the forms and the look is not as good but the pride in managing without help makes up for that.
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I watched it after catching a promo yesterday. Sadly the TV guides didn’t have the right program listed so I’m sure many would have missed it. She is not just the bravest person but some of her psychological issues parallel mine so closely that I’m ashamed I didn’t come out while I was working.
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My first ever wig was platinum blonde shoulder length bought from a small hairdressers in Wollongong in the 1980s. I loved it. It survived, with most of its styling, being thrown in our swimming pool with most of my femme clothes by a cranky wife. But it didn’t survive being part of my “purge” a few months later. My mourning of it is probably the reason I’ve been able to give up purging for all time since.
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I agree. Yes there are ups and downs and after struggling for 50 or so years in the closet, 2013 was the year I came out. I told my counsellor recently that 2013 was the best year of my life and I really meant it.
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Ask me as I went through the process and I would have said: pre-puberty that I hated or was terrified by the concept, shortly afterwards my mother’s clothing and me wearing them became a great turn-on. Over the next 50 years I “knew” for sure that I was a hetero crossdresser no more. For the last two years I have admitted to myself that I want to transition. Looking back I can see many hints of that desire hidden in my dreams/fantasies.
So, not before puberty but since, I can see a progression through the spectrum, a progression though of self-awareness rather than a change of underlying personality. -
Yes well my wife has very practical tastes in terms of undies. Cotton and comfortable. My taste inclines towards the practical with stretchy control and a bit frilly sometimes. I would never compare, but she does sometimes. My only recent comment on her’s was to wonder why most of her new ones that I was hanging on the line for her were 14/16 but two were 20/22. She said she obviously picked up the wrong pack. I didn’t go “yah, yah I take 12/14” My life is worth more than that.
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Hi Salleyj,
Reading Liz, Noeleena and Amanda’s replies I feel there is something in them all for you to take on board.
Your question specifically asks how other’s manage so I hope you don’t mind my projecting my personal experiences in replying to your post.
When I first socialised as a woman I was concerned with other people’s conceptions. I actually stopped going out to mainstream venues for a number of years as for some reason I felt I was encroaching on other’s turf.
I felt that there were enough alternate venues for me not to need to frequent regular venues.
This thinking continued until I attended my first Transformal in 2012. What was I thinking?
Get out there, have fun and be yourself. My method is to dress fairly age appropriately, but I have no problem being with girls who are more adventurous.
Presenting in your prefered gender is not illegal or immoral.
Life’s too short honey, get out there.
Good luck,
Jan.
PS If someone should choose to be prickly with you, remember it’s their problem not yours.
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My first issue of Digest arrived successfully a short time ago. Yeeehh! It claimed it was sent at 11.23am but trust me it didn’t arrive until after 7pm, not that I’m complaining. I’m just glad it arrived.
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Well another way of looking at this is 1.25% of stupid Victorians in excessively high heels are men. This a rare bit of hard data on how many of us there are. Assuming Victorians are no more stupid than the rest of us and that men falling off heels are just as likely to go to hospital as women and that none of the “women” are not really convincing or fully transitioned ex-men and that the fetish for super high heels is no stronger for CD/TS than GG and…
OK I think that, even though this sample is small, it suggests 2.5% of males in this country that rage in nightclubs are out there as CD. -
Ah well that explains the deadly silence. I’m sorry I bothered you with an email saying I wasn’t getting the Digest. But as you’ve probably guessed, as a Digest addict, I wasn’t alerted to this thread that explained why I wasn’t alerted….Oh shut up Carol.
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Well resolved Amanda.
I take it Nicole means I.T. will will alter the form by adding ‘other’ or some such option.
I had not realised that the issue was in the way in which we are addressed but now I do.
Through your constructive complaint you have moved us one step closer.
Thank you.
Jan Wilson
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There are two fears that I have.
First and most important, within the family my wife and three adult daughters know about me. My wife accepts my behaviour as long as no neighbours or friends find out and as long as physical changes go no further. My daughters do not want their husbands or children to know. So it is clear they are ashamed of me and if I push forward I risk losing all connections to the family.
Secondly at age 65, contemplating a very big adventure, I am unsure how long I have left with sufficient marbles to enjoy my new life. Can I at this late stage make my new life work for me or have 50 yrs of hiding my femme side left too many ingrained male traits. Perhaps the new me will never fit in anywhere.
To summarise: for a slight chance of a much better life, I am about to take a step that certainly has a big downside. Is it any surprise that I am hesitating? -
Maybe they are worried about ‘Hidden Weapons?’ 😆
What ever there must be a way to satisfy this specific need and do it so all concerned feel safe.
I am sure Richard Branson himself would be on our side and actually embarrassed of his Companies behaviour after having raised the bar in the first place.
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Good practical advice from the earlier posters Angela. As to whether it’s OK to be doubtful about your thoughts when dressed, just don’t try to force things. If you feel relaxed and comfortable in female clothes just enjoy that. You don’t have to think anything special, there are no rules, go with the flow. A man fantasising is just as valid as a woman trapped in a man’s body. Take your time to work out who you are. It only took me 50 yrs.