[Melissa_Mills]

hi Bambi
Yes, I have contacted our mutual acquaintance last year and he replied and so that’s the likely path I will follow. A drag queen I know quoted $150 per wig and I just want to know if that’s fairly standard but she is more self taught than trained.
As far as I know, my wigs are human hair

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How much padding is required to get an accurate approximation of female hips? 1 inch per side? 2?

[Melissa_Mills]

thankyou for your responses.
For those that make their own pads out of foam, how do you hold them in place? pantyhose or tights? Or do you use longer leg underwear etc?

Melissa

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I’ve had a look at the list of events (at least the ones that have been announced so far) and for the most part, they don’t really appeal to me. I will certainly try to get to a few events as I am there anyway of course

Mel

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Thanks Virginia.
I have been to Divas before and didn’t really have that great of a time so hopefully this one will be better. If I get a car, I’ll be able to hit the shops a lot easier the first full day in Vegas. Either of the premium outlets (north or south) can be accessed by public transport but it takes a lot longer.
Walmart does have some skorts for about $10 and that is where I obtained the current one I have

Melissa

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The place I am going is Las Vegas in late march/early april so it will be cool but not that cold. Temps hopefully should in the mid 20’s by then

[Melissa_Mills]

I have been debating this internally for quite a while now myself.
I keep wanting to take the “fear of discovery” by friends and colleagues out of the equation and there is only one way to do that…..tell or show them. I guess you can try and stop but we all know how effective that can be.
I have never really done that well in dating and have always been a loner and not necessarily by choice, more just out of survival and so always had to debate whether to tell at all (any potential date) or to not tell.
My issues with my neighbour have been well repeated by you and as he is not going away, I will have to try and go another route.
If I cant accept it about myself, how can I expect others to?
If I tell it to some or all of my colleagues and they subject me to any harassment at work, it is written into our company’s anti discrimination policies about you cant be discriminated against or subject to harassment for being transgender or for associating with people who are transgender.
Many people in my life already know I am a crossdresser. I don’t do around them and have no desire to do so.

[Melissa_Mills]

thanks Sasha.
Trying to be me isn’t working and its too hard to be someone else so I just keep going round and round in circles.
When my GG friend says about her and the former member of this site being “wing-women” for me and they’ll help me meet someone. I asked where we could go where that might happen Nightclubs? (I hate them and so does the GG, regardless of how I am dressed), Gay/trans bars? (not going to work for looking for dating prospects I would imagine).
When that GG keeps telling me about her crap boyfriend and all the issues they are having and she knows full well that I am single and very much in to her and I feel I have made too much of an emotional investment with dealing with her.

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I have always felt I was different too but not really sure how. Even if I did believe I was gender dysphoric (which I don’t believe I am), I am lonely and feel isolated now and I don’t feel that going down that path will do anything to help that.
For people who “only” identify as a crossdresser, I think its harder to work out where to take it as you identify as male but just want to express yourself from time to time in a dress, heels, makeup etc.
I was talking to my brother in law about this last week (he knows and isn’t the slightest bit fazed that I do it) but he feels that (his words) 99% of people wont be accepting of it and I would be better served to try and supress it if I want to meet people and create a social circle.
Gender dysphoric people have it harder overall but easier at least on one level as they know what their end goal is and can work towards it. Eventually you have to tell everyone in your life but CD’s have the choice and if you choose to hide it, then you have to worry about discovery and feelings of guilt and feelings of deception to the important people in your life.
My brother told me (also last week) that when I told him in 2007, he said he felt deceived (interesting choice of words). I have no problems getting along with my brother, his wife and their kids mind you. He wondered if I’d been hiding that, what else was I hiding.

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I have come across a website in the US that says they can make custom full lace wigs for any sized head starting at $250 which would be about the same as the german site for price but this will be full lace and the other one is not lace at all so I wouldnt be able to put the hair up in a ponytail etc.
Has anyone had any experience with full lace/lace front wigs?
Do you need glue or medical tape to make sure that your wigs are secure?

Melissa

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the one I’m leaning towards on that german website features a description of

The new future technology has been used for this wig. The soft and very natural looking filament can be treated like real hair as it is resistant against heat – which means you can handle your wig as natural hair: use the hair dryer, curl it and create any style you want.

and this one costs 270 euros so about $320 or so plus postage which apparantly ranges from 23-48 euros depending on the weight of the package.
I’m planning to head over to the USA next year and visit at least one store that caters to people with our interest and their wigs are a lot cheaper but I’ve been in contact with these people and they tell me they dont have anything large enough for me but I’ll go there anyway to be sure

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are the wigs that cost hundreds of dollars, noticeably better quality than the ones under $100?.
The couple that I’ve been able to find that are large enough for me (which cost $50), dont seem to be any better quality than ones I’ve seen in stores.
I’ve been looking at a website in germany that apparantly their wigs will fit me but they start at around 200 euros and rise rapidly from there.

Melissa

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Well, as some of you know I happen to work at brisbane airport in “security” (we technically arent security, the AFP is the actual security but I digress).
At brisbane airport, we dont happen to have the full body scanners at this time but they are coming but there isnt any indication of the time frame at this time.
I’ll be able to give you more information down the line but I do know that there are various models that display different things.
Some show EVERYTHING but the faces are blurred out (they all show blurred out faces) but others only will show a “stick figure” sort of image where they just show a circle on the image for any issues.
I was in the US a few months ago and went through a full body scanner (I was in guy mode) and I had a polo shirt on with bare arms and left my watch on and they asked about it, telling me I should have put it in my bag

Mel

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I got mine done at a hairhouse warehouse and aside from a few moments (which was more a reflection on the earrings I went to put in more so than the job that was done), I havent had any problems.
And this was including have to take the studs out completely one week after getting them done as I had to get a CT scan done of my head and you couldnt have any metal. I was able to switch them over to plastic studs which I kept in for quite a while and had no problems thankfully. Any flareups that I had were quickly taken care of with some methylated spirits on a cotton bud

Melissa

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Eddie Izzard is a well known crossdresser

Ed Wood who was that director who made awful movies (in the 50s I believe but I could be wrong on the era)