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Well done Kristyana.
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This all sounds so familiar. I managed to keep my two sides in some sort of balance for 50yrs with the occasional breakout. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say I kept the lid on my feelings. Then came the point when I was retired, the last of my children married and my parents deceased. Essentially the brakes were off. My newly released enthusiasm was fuelled by the educational effect of a TG web site (not this one) and now I am gloriously and happily unbalanced, on hrt and heading in my 60s towards transition. You seek a balance that suits your personal circumstances and stage of life. There is definitely no one-size fits all solution. To myself I am not unbalanced but the outside observer might see things differently.
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Hi Scylla
I suffered too until I found a product called “Remove” by smith and nephew.
Described as universal adhesive remover wipes ,gently removes tapes and adhesives, reduces risk of irritation and skin stripping, contains aloe. I found it works a treat. Not all chemists carry it so you may have to ask around or get them to order it in. I get mine at Wals Pharmacy Warilla. The same place I get my patches. Again not all chemists carry a stock of those. We must be a minority! -
Having wide shoulders means that off-the-shelf purchases that fit upstairs never are tight at the waist and I can usually slip the lot on over my head with the zip already done up. But as a chicken winger I find that if I do want to zip I can move the zip as far as it will go up with the dress pulled down. Then by hitching the dress up slightly I can reach the zip over my shoulder to finish the job. All this depends, I guess, on not having the dress form fitting made to measure of non-stretch fabric. But I haven’t tried one of those.
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Calliope, That is so close to encapsulating my thinking it’s scary.
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Thanks Caty for starting a great run of posts. For once I was with the majority.
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Wonderful topic… I have always been a chicken winger and never actually tried the clip and twist… just old fashion I guess as this was always the way I had seen it being done either by my wife, mother or as observed in the movies. Another method I use regularly now and no one has mentioned is actually doing up the bra and stepping into it and sliding it all the way up and into place… maybe just lazy but works for me …giggle. Happy dressing Girls
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I’m a confirmed chicken winger despite being told by Tanya from the BFS that only idiot CDs did it that way. In line with Tanya’s view my wife spins hers round. For removal I usually chicken wing but if getting changed covertly in the car I slip the straps off down my sleeves so I don’t have to remove my shirt/top.
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6mths in on anti-androgen and 5mths in on estrogen, I’ve noticed dramatic reduction in body hair, noticeable boob growth but not enough to throw away the forms yet, boob soreness, very slight reduction in diameter of bald spot, some weight loss but I’m dieting too, fat redistribution onto hips and bum but not enough to make me throw away the boy jeans, slight reduction in waist but it’s still to big. Massive increase in propensity to burst into tears at sad stories on tele and a shorter fuse in terms of other people’s stupidity.
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I’ve just been out en femme and have good news and bad. I made a complete mess of painting my nails after spending three weeks growing them long enough for it to be worthwhile painting them. Wife knows about the dressing but disapproves about the nails and they were on the brink of triggering her trip-line too.
However according to Tanya of the BFS only idiot CD males bother trying to do up bras behind their backs. GGs swing them round just like you did, Caty, so don’t feel too bad.
For lashes I’ve given up on mascara and falsies. I’m just too uncoordinated but male lashes are naturally thicker than girls and I’ve discovered lash tinting: black, very subtle, or blue-black, more daring, have not yet been noticed by my wife. It’s cheap around $15 and lasts 6 weeks. Definitely easier too. -
Great positive story Amanda.
BTW how did the dress prize turn out?
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Thank you Amanda. I really needed a positive story this week and you’ve delivered a beauty.
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Pvt Chelsea Manning has been awarded the 2013 Sean MacBride Peace Award by the International Peace Bureau in recognition of her exposure of war crimes against humanity.
The medal was forwarded to her solicitor David Coombs and presented to her in prison.
Petition has been made for her early release and it is hoped she may only have to serve 8 to 10 years of a 35 year sentence.
Sometimes its hard to be a woman…….. -
Is being transgendered a conscious choice? Like others, I’ve often scratched my head about this one. My simple take is that it would be wonderful if it was. Overall, I’d err on the side of simplifying my life by choosing to walk away from this transgender stuff.
Having “failed” miserably in that regard, it seems to me that I have a “hardwired” female identity. And as a consequence, like most other folk here, I guess, I live with a personal sense of dissonance, “dysphoria” perhaps, between my sense of self and the reality of what was declared by the first person who threw a glance in the general direction of my groin.
The dissonance eases when I express myself as female. On some occasions there may also be an initial sense of euphoria, but this settles and gives way to a generally more comfortable sense of self. Gender expression, in contrast to gender identity, is something that I think I have some choice over. The drive to express myself socially as female has progressively increased over time, but I still have some choice.
Then there’s the question of how we chose to express ourselves when we’re interacting socially – behaviours, speech patterns, dress codes, body modifications, etc. Personally, it seems that I’ve been able to get away with more “feminine” behaviours – even as an adolescent in a boys school (to which my parents were very keen to send me). But, numerous childhood experiences alerted me to the value of keeping a lid on anything else that challenged people’s view of me as a boy.
So, driven by a strong sense of social restraint all around me, I exercised choice to be selective about what I expressed and when.
Then there is the issue of the extent of the underlying imperative to align identity with reality, which for many seems to rise up and overwhelm any sense of choice. The imperative or “drive” aspect fascinates me – it clearly varies enormously from person to person. And, within some people at least, it also seems to fluctuate overtime.
Anyway, I think I should stop here so that I don’t risk heading into aspects that are beyond the immediate topic.
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Yes I’ve purged in the past and regretted it when I’ve had to rebuild my collection, but with the exception of a few favourite items that I regret losing, there was no real long term loss. I shudder at the awesomely bad styles that I used to adopt. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say. Even the few items (my first pair of boots and the long button up denim skirt) I regret losing would probably not look as good as I remember them if they were magically restored to me today. But Fiona-Alexis hit the real spot for me. The lost photo record of early Carol is what I really regret losing. I can tell you what I did 40yrs ago but I can only show you two years back.